Every time I scroll through my social media feeds, I’m bombarded with posts about motivation. “Find the motivation to chase your dreams!” “Stay motivated to crush your goals!” The word gets thrown around so much that it’s easy to lose sight of what it actually means. So, let’s cut through the noise and get real.
According to the Oxford Dictionary, motivation is “the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.” Sounds straightforward, right? But here’s the thing—I’ve been staring at that definition for a while now, and I’m calling it out: Motivation is a liar.
Let me explain. If I’m being brutally honest, my “general desire” is to do as little as possible. I’m human. I gravitate toward the path of least resistance. It’s not something I’m proud of, but it’s the truth. And my “willingness” to do things? That’s shaky at best. I’ve got big dreams and grand intentions, but let’s face it—it’s easier to not achieve. It’s easier to scroll, binge-watch, or procrastinate than to grind toward something meaningful.
But here’s where I draw the line: I refuse to let that define me. I know myself well enough to understand that my fleeting desires or shaky willingness can’t be trusted to get the job done. My choices, my responsibilities, my word—those are what matter. I can’t sit around waiting for a magical burst of motivation to strike. Sure, those moments of inspiration feel like a shot of adrenaline, but they fizzle out fast. If I’m going to move forward, I need something more reliable than a feeling. I need a plan—and the self-discipline to stick to it.
As the great American poet Maya Angelou once said, “You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” The same goes for action. The more you push through, the more you build the muscle of discipline. Waiting for motivation is like waiting for permission—it’s not coming unless you decide to act anyway.
I want to be a man of my word. When I say I’m going to do something, I want you to know it’s as good as done. You can take it to the bank. I’ve worked hard to make this true in my relationships with others, and I’m getting better at keeping that promise to myself. It’s not always easy. There are days when the couch calls louder than my goals, but I’m learning to show up anyway.
I was listening to an interview with Kobe Bryant a while back, and he dropped a gem that hit me hard. He talked about signing a contract with himself. He made a deal—willingly—and held himself accountable to follow through. That’s why he was the hardest-working person in any room. He didn’t wait for motivation to show up; he showed up for himself. As Kobe put it, “You have to work hard in the dark to shine in the light.” That’s the kind of commitment I’m striving for.
So, this is my reminder to myself—and maybe to you, too: Motivation is a liar. It’s a fleeting feeling that can’t be trusted to carry you through. There are goals to chase, tasks to tackle, and promises to keep. The deal has been made. It’s time to get to work.
What’s one thing you’re committing to today, no matter how you feel? Let’s hold ourselves accountable and make it happen.
David Willis 