Today is my 27th wedding anniversary.
Twenty-seven years ago, I married my best friend. And sitting at the table with her this morning, talking about all the unlikely things that had to align for us to even meet, I’m reminded why Day 9 of the 7-40 Challenge matters more than any other day so far.
This isn’t just about me. It never has been.
The Butterfly Effect (Or God’s Perfect Timing)
April 1, 1998. I walked into a church in Bethany, Oklahoma, volunteering with the college minister—for what, I don’t really remember. As we walked in together, a beautiful lady with blonde hair walked toward us.
The minister introduced us. She quickly said hello, then politely ignored me. Talked with the minister and was on her way. Little did I know I had just met my future wife.
It was like we were destined to meet. But here’s the thing: I was only at that church because of a singing scholarship that brought me to that university where the college minister was a student. Marixa had only transferred to that university three months earlier because she wanted to be closer to home. I’d been at a different church where I was the youth leader until just a month before. Then a rappelling trip in late April. A whitewater rafting trip in June.
Every random piece had to fall into place exactly right.
Twenty-seven years later, we’re still here. Still talking. Still building a life together. I can’t even describe how grateful I am.
Here’s the truth: I’m 47 years old, staring down the reality that 27 more years won’t be enough time to know her, to be her friend, to do everything we still want to do together. It just isn’t long enough to love her completely.
But I’ll take every second I can get.
Why I’m Doing This Challenge
For years, I’ve worked on bettering myself in various ways—career, faith, creativity. But I’ve simultaneously neglected things that matter just as much. My physical health. My strength. My energy.
And here’s what crossed my mind this morning: I have to be here. Not just alive, but present, capable, and strong. I want as many more years as I can have. God willing, that’s a whole bunch.
We love being married. We love building our family. We love being creative together. We love working on homes together—improving things, building things, creating beauty out of work. That requires strength. Stamina. Being physically able to show up and contribute, not just watch from the sidelines because I didn’t take care of myself.
I need to be a helpmate to my wife—not a burden she has to accommodate because I let myself fall apart.
I need to be an example for my son. I want him to see his dad doing the hard thing at 47, not talking about it someday. I want him to watch me transform, so when life gets hard for him, he knows it’s possible to choose differently. To start now, not later.
I want to see my grandchildren. I want decades more with my best friend. I want to keep growing, keep achieving, keep building.
The best time to start taking care of myself? Not someday. Not when things settle down. Now.
Because 27 years from now, I want to be sitting at that same table with Marixa, talking about all the things we built together in these next decades.
And that starts with Day 9.
Day 9 Scorecard: ✅ Bible study ✅ Exercise (Workout A) ✅ Reading ✅ Gratitude ✅ Water ✅ Calories ✅ Creative hour
Nine consecutive perfect days. For her. For my son. For the life we’re still building.
Happy anniversary, my darling. Here’s to 27 more—and I’m going to be strong enough to live every one of them well.
The best time to start is now. Not for yourself alone. For everyone counting on you to be here.
See you tomorrow for Day 10.
