Day 32 of the 7-40 Challenge
Sunday, February 1, 2026
Gratitude Sunday – The Thank You Campaign
I’m taking every Sunday this year as an opportunity to express gratitude for a person, situation, or memory that has influenced me in a positive way. Today’s subject: my beautiful bride.
The Memory I Forgot
We were driving to lunch today, enjoying each other’s conversation like we always do. We’ve been married for 27 years now, and it hit me: because we’re both 47 years old, we’ve got more memories with each other than we have without.
Over a quarter century of friendship. Laughter. Love. Memories. Shared sorrows. A life we’ve gotten to build together.
As we talked, we were sharing disdain for the amount of snow still left in our area. That snowstorm last week was something else, making it very hard for both of us to do things we enjoy. She loves being outside, taking care of her garden. I love walking and exercising in nature.
And then she brought up a memory that she remembered and I did not.
Apparently, a little over a year after we got married—late 1999 or early 2000—there was another snowstorm. And I was eager to make snow ice cream.
It was the first time we’d been together when it snowed. In Oklahoma, snow is not the rule—it’s very much the exception.
She remembers me going out onto our balcony with a blue Tupperware bowl (probably knockoff Tupperware we got for our wedding) and filling it with snow. I made a little over a gallon of snow ice cream.
I told her it always reminded me of my childhood—something my mom and I did together during the rare times it snowed. It has a very familiar, very nostalgic place in my heart.
But here’s what got me: She had a memory of me making it for her for the first time.
When She Remembered and I Did Not
When she brought this up, it hit me hard.
The times we share with people can be meaningful to them without us even noticing. Which means we need to share those times and be as intentional as we can be with the people we love.
It didn’t surprise me that she remembered it—that’s what she does. But what surprised me was that such a simple little recipe with snow left a smile from that long ago.
I thought: I’m grateful that there are little moments in our lives that become meaningful just because we share them with somebody we love.
Something that was meaningful to me as a kid has now become much more meaningful to me as an adult because it made my bride smile.
Becoming One
There’s a principle in the Bible that says a man should leave his father and mother and become one with his wife. While the Bible is obviously talking about knowing her intimately and physically, I think we also need to acknowledge that becoming one with your spouse is also about bond, partnership, and shared experience.
It is a holy and awesome union that I think most people today don’t really understand.
We live in a world where people are encouraged to figure out life for themselves, their careers, their bucket list, their desires first—before they ever take the time to settle down and get married. Everything else before settling. A position I wholeheartedly disagree with.
What I found is by making that most important decision in my life early, I now had someone to share those amazing times and those struggles with. I have a beautiful champion in my corner who lifts me up and walks with me, who experiences blissful highs with me and holds me through the lows.
People do not understand what becoming one in purpose, mission, and in our lives really does.
We Didn’t Know Then What We Know Now
Back in those younger days, as we were building our young marriage, building memories, building our relationship, enjoying our friendship, we didn’t know.
We didn’t know we would go through hardship and trials. That we would struggle from time to time and overcome. That our wedding vows would be lived out year over year as they have been. Sometimes through some very scary moments.
I didn’t realize that small memories would become so sweet and full of so much meaning and texture.
I didn’t realize that those shared experiences would bind us together even more tightly, deepening the love we have for each other.
All of it comes together. And all I can do is stand in awe of the relationship I have with this beautiful woman, with a thankful heart to God for the day He brought her into my life and for every day He allows me to be her husband and her best friend.
What Gratitude Discipline Reveals
I think taking a chance weekly to be purposely grateful—not just in my marriage, but in my life in general—reminds me that I am ridiculously blessed.
I am so rich in so many ways that have nothing to do with money.
I am sitting on a gold mine of opportunity if I only tune my mind to it: an opportunity to love people, to take care of people, to serve people, to work through creative ideas, to share with people, to provide for my family, and to live a life that many people would not choose to live because they do it without gratitude or true thankfulness.
I have been blessed so richly in so many ways. How could I be anything but grateful?
It is my honor to share that gratitude tangibly with the world around me and help them, hopefully, be inspired to see the same thing. I can think of no more fitting place to start than with my marriage.
The Key to Building a Marriage
I think one of the keys to building a marriage—especially a marriage that lasts—is by cherishing and honoring not only the relationship but all those small holy moments that make it up.
Snow ice cream on a balcony in a knockoff Tupperware bowl.
A conversation on the way to lunch about too much snow.
Twenty-seven years of moments like these, stacking up into a life we’ve built together.
Sweetheart, I know you’re reading this.
I love you with every fiber of my being and more. I am grateful that you are my partner in this life and that you are my love.
For Everyone Reading This
Not everybody reading this is married. But you will have a friendship with someone special who has your back. You will have opportunities that have been given to you that you could be grateful for. You will have memories that can help spur you on to good things.
It’s all in our perspective.
Cherish the relationships you have. Honor the small holy moments that make them up.
Because someday, someone might remember a simple thing you did together—and that memory will make them smile 27 years later.
Day 32: Complete ✓
All seven habits executed. Gratitude Sunday honored.
Round 1 Progress: 32/40 days (80%)
Eight more days until Round 1 is complete.
See you tomorrow for Day 33.