The older I get, the more I come to realize I do not like fake. I don’t like drama in relationships. I would far rather know you for who you are and have you know me the same way. Is it OK to just be real? What does sincere mean?
Sincere – free from pretense. Being genuine.
How do I interpret this? If you’re a nice person I wanna know that you’re a nice person. If you’d prefer to be a jerk, then do your thing. We can still get along if I know your intentions. If you are in your 40s and still love to play video games all day long, I want to know about it. If you still listen to Kenny G and pretend like it’s the 90s, there’s no judgment here. Whatever it is that makes you you, I want to see it. That’s the beauty of having a friendship with someone.
Only when we can admit who we really are are we able to make progress. We all have things that we love about ourselves. We all have things that were not so fond of too. It can be overwhelming when there is no one to share the good and bad with. But, we have conditioned ourselves to live with the Facebook filter. We only let people see a portion of who we really are. I’m not sure that’s OK.
I am in no way advocating over sharing. This is not a post about telling strangers too much about you. However, as we meet and encounter new people are there potential friendships that we overlook because of our insecurities and hangups? Are there people that need us that aren’t being honest with themselves? How do we cut through all the crap and just be sincere?
I’m going to shoot straight here, I didn’t expect to be in my 40s and it be hard to make new friends. I’ve never figured out why this is so. When we were teenagers, making friends was very easy. We accepted everybody, or at least the people that I ran with did…If I am remembering things the right way. I can look back over the years and I can identify a few friendships that could have been amazing that blew up over lack of sincerity or being real. it makes me sad.
I also have to express gratitude in this post. There are a few people in my life that are the best friends I’ve ever known. I know that one of the keys to these friendships is sincerity. We get to be who we actually are and it’s OK. If you are reading this, you know who you are.
It’s my hope that if you have called me friend over the years you have always found me to be sincere. If you’ve ever called me fake, or pretending to be something I’m not, I sincerely apologize. Do you need a friend now? Shoot me a line. Let’s be real.