Yeah, that’s an HR violation.

What jobs have you had?

Have you ever had a job that you didn’t enjoy? I mean, one that you really didn’t like at all? What comes to your mind? Can you picture it clearly? Well, I can. It was a doozy.

Let me set the stage… My first two jobs after college were at churches. I either led the music or looked after the youth. Eventually, I realized that line of work wasn’t for me, but they were somewhat enjoyable jobs.

My horror story job came not after that. It was early 2003 when I stopped working at the church. It had been obvious for a while that it was time to leave, so I took a leap and quit without any plans or fallback options. It was time to find a new job.

I started sending out resumes and applying for jobs. However, for some reason, my sociology degree didn’t seem attractive to prospective employers. I ended up working at a Thomas Kinkade art gallery for a little while, which wasn’t really my style. After that, I worked at Pizza Hut. It wasn’t exactly a step up in the world, but at least I got to enjoy free pizza.

After those two “wonderful” experiences, I stumbled upon one of the worst working environments I have ever encountered. I got a job spraying yards for a company in Oklahoma City. There were early signs that it wouldn’t be a good job, and boy, was I proven right.

Let me break this down into three sections, with the third section being the reason for the title of this post.

  1. Not long after starting work there, I found out that employee retention was poor. Being young and a bit naive, I initially thought it might have been the employees’ problem and that I would do better than they did. However, I soon discovered that the management of the company was unfit to handle their roles. They frequently used guilt to make employees stay late and do more work than they should have.
  2. At that point in my life, I was juggling two jobs. I worked for the grass company during the day and delivered pizzas at night. I remember one instance when my work truck broke down along the side of the highway. I knew I would be late for my evening job, but I thought that if someone could come and pick me up, I might still make it in time. When I called the company, they had me describe the issue. They told me there was no one they could send to fix the truck and that they would guide me through fixing it. The “solution” involved taking one of the shoestrings out of my shoes and using it to bind part of the throttle to the engine. Redneck for sure. To be truthful, I wasn’t upset about having to work on the truck on the side of the road; I was upset because my day job showed no consideration for anything I had planned outside of their activities. On a side note, I was pretty pleased that I managed to get the truck running with my shoestring.
  3. The worst part about working there was what was tolerated within the workspace. The guy who trained me was a full-blown pornography addict. It was all he could talk about. I spent my training time riding in a truck with a guy who tried to engage me in the most uncomfortable discussions I’ve ever had in my life. He loved using descriptive language. He even went so far as to pat me on the rear end in front of one of the managers. I looked him straight in the face, right in front of the management, and told him that if he touched me again, I would break his face. I think he finally got the message. The managers never said a word.

Why am I telling these stories this evening? It’s good to remember. It’s good to remember where we come from and what we’ve gone through. It serves as a reminder of how far I’ve come and how much I have to be thankful for.

As an older man, I now know what I am willing and what I am not willing to accept in the workplace. The stories I told you predate the modern era of HR policy. I know the workplace environment should be much better than what I have described. I’m thankful for that as well.

If you find yourself in a place where you’re uncomfortable, you’re not alone. Know that you have skills and abilities, and there are options out there if you’re willing to be persistent and look around. I am proof that even with an undergraduate degree and a field I had no desire to work in, you can find things you love to do and do them well.

What sets you apart?

Which aspects do you think makes a person unique?

There are so many ways to be unique. Some are cool. Some are strange. Some are illegal. But let’s not focus on those right now. In my opinion the following three things are part of the equation.

1. Authenticity. It took me a little while, but I finally came to a place where I would rather be me. I don’t need to compare myself to others. Me is good. God made me. He has a plan for me. I will be me and follow the plan.

2. Compassion. My life is not just about me. It is about taking care of those around me. My family. My friends. People that God puts in my path. I always want to look in the mirror and see a man who can have compassion on others.

3. Sense of humor. I love to laugh. I try to do it as often as possible. Laughter is medicine. If I don’t laugh often I can get too bogged down with life. That is why I seek out opportunities to laugh with my wife. See my post from a few days ago.

These are his three of the things that make me unique. The list is long and could keep going. The point is the list is me. This is who I am and aspire to be. Me. And I want to make God smile. So me, following God’s plan.

Her laugh is amazing

What makes you laugh?

I have an admission to make. I have a TikTok account. I know, half of America does, but it still feels like a dirty little secret. “You have a TikTok? Are you ok?” This is the response I expect when people find out.

Yes. I watch for a very specific reason: I find videos I know will make my wife laugh. A couple of times a week we will spend 20 minutes or so watching them. I have a pretty good knack for finding good ones, but every once in a while I strike gold.

What is the gold you ask? Her laugh. You know that kind where it is hard to breath and your eyes start to sweat? That uncontrollable belly laugh of high enjoyment? Yep. That is it. Pure gold.

So, what usually gets laughs like this? It varies from day to day, but it usually involves a dog or cat and the awesome personalities they exude. Or, it could be a kid swinging a ball bat and hitting his dad in the…you know…or a ton of other things.

Her laugh is one of the sweetest sounds on earth to me. It brings me joy. It calms me. It makes me fall for her deeper and deeper…and we have been at this for almost 25 years. I just can’t get enough.

When she is laughing I want to join in. So, what makes me laugh? Making my bride laugh.