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Day 38 of the 40-Day Challenge: How I Rediscovered Reading and Negotiation

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Hey there, friends! Welcome to Day 38 of my 7-40 Challenge, where I’m committing to seven daily habits to spark growth, find my rhythm, and finally start crushing the goals I’ve set for myself. These past 38 days have been nothing short of transformative—productive, challenging, and deeply rewarding. Today, I’m thrilled to share a major milestone: I’ve finished my third book of the challenge, and I’m already diving into two others. Let’s unpack this journey and talk about a fantastic book that’s reshaped how I view conversations and negotiations.

The Power of Small Habits

My 7-40 challenge is all about building a foundation for bigger dreams. By focusing on daily habits—like prioritizing my physical health, nurturing my spiritual growth, and fueling my creative passions—I’m laying the groundwork for the life I want to create. It’s not always easy. Balancing these priorities while keeping my eyes on long-term goals has been a test of discipline. But let me tell you, the progress feels incredible. Small, consistent actions—like reading for 30 minutes a day—have compounded into something truly meaningful.

A Reading Renaissance

Before this challenge, I hadn’t read a full book in ages. Life gets busy, distractions pile up, and somehow, reading falls by the wayside. But committing to 30 minutes of reading each day has been a transformative. Not only have I finished three books in 38 days, but I’m also juggling two others simultaneously. That’s five books total—a feat I’m incredibly proud of. This habit has reignited my curiosity, sharpened my mind, and reminded me how much I love getting lost in a good book.

The latest book I finished? Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. If you haven’t read it, buckle up—this one’s a must.

Why Never Split the Difference is a Game-Changer

Written by Chris Voss, a former FBI hostage negotiator, Never Split the Difference is a masterclass in negotiation that’s as gripping as it is practical. Voss draws from his high-stakes experiences negotiating with kidnappers and criminals, but what makes this book so powerful is how universal its lessons are. Whether you’re in a boardroom, parenting a toddler, or just trying to get a better deal on a car, negotiation is part of daily life.

Voss redefines negotiation as a conversation—a way to uncover what the other person needs while advocating for your own needs. It’s not about winning or losing; it’s about solving a problem together. His real-world examples are intense (think life-or-death hostage situations), but the strategies—like active listening, mirroring, and asking calibrated questions—are surprisingly easy to apply in everyday scenarios. I’m already noticing how these techniques can help me navigate conversations more thoughtfully, whether I’m collaborating with colleagues or working through a disagreement at home.

One story that really hit home was Voss’s explanation of how negotiation isn’t just for high-stakes deals—it’s everywhere. From convincing your kids to eat their veggies to closing a business deal, we’re negotiating all the time. Framing it as a collaborative conversation, not a battle, has completely shifted how I approach these moments. It’s empowering to know that by listening better and asking the right questions, I can build stronger connections and find win-win solutions.

What’s Next?

Reading Never Split the Difference has me hungry to learn more about communication and human behavior. But more than that, it’s reinforced the value of the 7-40 Challenge. By sticking to my daily habits, I’m not just checking boxes—I’m growing, evolving, and getting closer to the person I want to be.

Now, I want to hear from you! What book are you reading right now? Got a recommendation that could join my ever-growing list? Drop it in the comments—I’m always looking for the next great read.

Day 38 and Counting

This challenge has been a wild ride, and with only two days left, I’m more motivated than ever. These habits are becoming second nature, and I can already see how they’re setting me up for bigger wins in the future. Thanks for joining me on this journey—let’s keep pushing forward together. See you on Day 39!

Writing Without Fear: Lessons from the 7-40 Challenge

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Hey there, friends! I’m 33 days into the 7-40 Challenge—seven daily habits over 40 days to spark growth and transformation. I am so thankful for this challenge. It has me back in a good space practicing daily. 

One habit I’ve clung to is reading or listening to a book for at least 30 minutes every day. There have even been days where I have gotten in a couple of hours, soaking up ideas like a sponge. It’s become a welcome pause, a moment to breathe and grow. For me, this daily ritual is my way of arming myself with knowledge, clarity, and a whole lot of heart.

A Space to Ponder

This reading habit isn’t just about flipping pages or hitting play on an audiobook. It’s about carving out space to think. I’ve revisited books I read years ago, and let me tell you, it’s like meeting an old friend who’s got new stories to share. With a clearer sense of who I am now, those familiar words hit differently. It’s humbling, sometimes exhilarating, to see old lessons in a new light. As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never returns to its original dimensions.” That’s what this practice does—it stretches me, challenges me, and pushes me to become a better version of myself.

Journaling with Courage

Today I began diving into Suleika Jaouad’s The Creative Alchemy, a book that’s both a gut-punch and an inspiration. It’s built around a 100-day journaling challenge, born from the author’s battle with a rare form of leukemia. The book is a collection of 100 essays from her community, each paired with a prompt to get you writing. One question stopped me in my tracks: What would you write if you weren’t afraid?

Whoa. That made me think. Are there topics I am staying away from because I am afraid of them? After considering for a few, I believe this would be my answer:

If fear wasn’t in the driver’s seat, I’d write about my life through the lens of lessons learned. Some parts of my story? They’re sacred, private, and mine to keep. But others—those universal moments of struggle, triumph, and the messy beauty of being human—those are meant to be shared. I want to write stories that uplift, that remind people they’re not alone. I’m inspired by Zig Ziglar, who said, “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” His words weren’t just about sales—they were about connection, service, and lifting others up. That’s the kind of writing I’d do: stories that resonate, that spark hope, that build bridges.

Faith, Love, and Shared Humanity

Writing without fear would mean living with intention. It would force me to be deliberate about my time, my words, and how I share my faith in God and my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I’ve never been shy about being a Christian, but I’ll admit I’ve sometimes held back personal stories, worried they might make someone squirm. Here’s what I’m learning: discomfort often comes from how a story is shared. If I approach it with love, empathy, and a desire to share God’s love, the walls come down, and understanding takes root.

My goal—whether I’m writing or speaking—is to share God’s love through my story. I want to shine a light on the struggles we all face, the shared humanity that binds us. As Charles Dickens put it in A Tale of Two Cities, “We are all fellow-passengers to the grave.” If we embraced that truth—that we’re all in this together—the world would feel less divided. I believe in right and wrong, and my faith is my anchor. Sharing stories of hope, resilience, and redemption is how I’d write if fear didn’t hold me back.

Choosing Courage

This 7-40 Challenge has shown me that fear is a choice. Every day, when I carve out time to read, I’m choosing to grow. I’m choosing to challenge myself. I’m choosing to live with intention. If I can take that courage to the page, I can write the stories that matter—stories that inspire, uplift, and remind us we’re all fellow travelers on this crazy road called life.

So, here’s to writing without fear. Here’s to sharing the lessons learned. And here’s to trusting that our stories, when told with love, can light the way for others. As C.S. Lewis once said, “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” Let’s start where we are. Let’s write without fear.

So, tell me—what would you write if you weren’t afraid?

Day 26 of the 7-40 Challenge: Why I Still Love Paper Books

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Hey there, welcome to Day 26 of my 7-40 Challenge— that’s right, 7 daily habits cranked up over 40 days to level up my life, smash through procrastination, and finally get some real momentum going. If you’ve been riding shotgun with me, you know the drill: bible study and prayer, calorie tracking, hydration, exercise, gratitude, writing and today’s topic…reading books. Today, taking a deep dive on why I still love paper books…even though I struggle to sit still long enough to read them.

Confession time: I’ve always been a book hoarder—my shelves are bursting, and my wife? Let’s just say she’s politely suggested a “book intervention” more than once. But why the obsession? After some soul-searching during this challenge, I’ve boiled it down to three reasons. Let’s roll!

1. Books Are Epic Bodies of Knowledge—Your Personal Portal to Mastery

First off, paper books are like treasure chests packed with pure, distilled wisdom. Who needs a fancy classroom or a guru breathing down your neck when you can grab a book and dive straight into the good stuff? Flip those pages, absorb the insights, and boom—you’re building expertise on your terms. As the ancient Roman philosopher Cicero once said, “A room without books is like a body without a soul.” Spot on, right? Books aren’t just ink on paper; they’re gateways to worlds of knowledge that stick with you.

In my collection, I’ve got timeless beasts that I revisit like old friends. Take See You at the Top by Zig Ziglar—it’s a motivational powerhouse loaded with strategies for crushing goals and staying fired up. Or Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy, which drops bombs on prioritization and turning “to-dos” into “done deals.” Right now, I’m knee-deep in Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, where these Navy SEAL legends break down leadership lessons forged in the fires of Iraq. These aren’t one-and-done reads; they’re arsenals I pull from whenever life throws a curveball. They help me grow stronger, adapt faster, and tackle whatever chaos comes my way. In a world of quick-fix TikToks, books like these remind me: real knowledge builds empires.

2. Engage at Your Own Pace—Because Life’s Insights Evolve With You

Second reason? Paper books let you call the shots. No fast-forwarding through an audiobook or getting lost in a podcast shuffle. You can pause, ponder, underline that killer quote, or straight-up set it down and marinate on an idea. René Descartes nailed it when he wrote, “The reading of all good books is like a conversation with the finest minds of past centuries.” It’s intimate, flexible, and deeply personal— like chatting with geniuses who wait patiently for you to catch up.

I’ve got books I’ve revisited multiple times, each read unlocking new layers. Case in point: Extreme Ownership. I first cracked it open four years ago, and it was solid—gave me some foundational wins. But now? Holy smokes, it’s hitting different. Every principle screams relevance to my current job: owning mistakes, leading teams through tough spots, decentralizing command. My context has shifted, and so has the book’s impact. It’s not just rereading; it’s re-leveling up. If I had to snag this wisdom from a live convo, it’d be gone in a flash. But with a book? It’s yours forever, ready for round two (or three) whenever you’re primed for it.

3. They Force You to Wrestle—Building a Bulletproof Mindset

Finally—and this one’s my favorite gut-check—books make you struggle. Not in a bad way, but in that “iron sharpens iron” grind that builds real strength. Just because it’s printed doesn’t make it gospel. You’ve got to read critically: question the author’s angle, test their hypotheses, and sift for gold even if the whole premise doesn’t vibe. Mark Twain put it bluntly: “The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them.” But I’d add: the real edge comes from dissecting them, not swallowing them whole.

Over the years, I’ve ditched books that felt like sales pitches—pushing some “one true method” without earning my trust. Others? Biased vibes leaked through, ignoring the full picture. But even in those, I’ve snagged nuggets that sparked breakthroughs. It’s about building discernment: trusting proven voices while scrutinizing new ones. What vantage point are they writing from? What’s their intent? This habit doesn’t just fill your head; it hones your baloney detector. As your life evolves, you weave these insights together, creating a rock-solid foundation of what you know to be true. Books challenge you to own your knowledge—and that’s where the real power kicks in.

Whew, that felt good to unpack! So, spill the beans: What’s your all-time favorite book, and why does it rock your world? Do you geek out over owning physical copies, or are you team digital? If reading’s not your jam, what’s holding you back? Drop your thoughts in the comments—let’s turn this into a conversation.

Day 26? Done. Feeling pumped for Day 27. Thanks for tagging along on the ride. 

Embracing Extreme Ownership: A Journey of Personal Growth

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Welcome back, friends! Today, I’m diving into my 7-40 Challenge—a personal quest to build seven daily habits over 40 days. We’re well into this journey, and despite my occasional confusion about what day it is (is it day 24 or 25? Day 24.), I’m making solid progress. One of my key habits is dedicating 30 minutes a day to reading or listening to a book, and let me tell you, it’s been a game-changer.

The Struggle with Paper Books

I’ll be honest: sitting down with a physical book is tough for me. It’s not that I don’t love a good story or crave knowledge—I do! I once devoured a James Patterson novel and a John Grisham thriller in a single weekend. But holding a book up to my face? It just doesn’t click. Over the years, I’ve realized I’m an auditory learner. Audiobooks let me process information faster and more effectively. Thanks to Audible, I’ve built an extensive collection of audiobooks, and I keep adding to it. They’re my go-to for soaking up stories and ideas while I’m on the move.

For this challenge, I started with Creative Calling by Chase Jarvis, which was inspiring, and dipped into Building a StoryBrand 2.0 by Donald Miller, but it didn’t feel like the right time for it. Then I picked up Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, and wow—this book is hitting all the right notes.

Why Extreme Ownership Resonates

Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win is a powerhouse of leadership principles drawn from the authors’ experiences as Navy SEALs in Iraq. Willink and Babin share gripping stories from the battlefield and translate those lessons into practical strategies for business and everyday life. As someone who deeply admires soldiers for their courage, discipline, and fitness, I’m captivated by their ability to take high-stakes lessons from war and apply them to leadership.

The core principle of the book—extreme ownership—has me reflecting hard on my own life. As Willink and Babin write, “On any team, in any organization, all responsibility for success and failure rests with the leader. The leader must own everything in his or her world. There is no one else to blame” (Extreme Ownership, p. 30). This idea challenges leaders to take full responsibility—not just for their own actions but for the outcomes of their entire team. It’s about setting a clear vision, communicating effectively, and guiding your people toward a shared purpose.

A Lesson from the Past

This concept of ownership hits home when I think about a job I had in the mid-2000s. I worked in an office that was, frankly, a tough environment. The owner smoked four to six cigars a day, and stepping into the office was like walking into a smoky bar. By the end of the day, I reeked so badly that my wife wouldn’t kiss me until I showered and ditched my clothes. Beyond the smoke, the workplace was dysfunctional. Expectations were unclear, communication was spotty, and I felt stuck, frustrated, and unnoticed despite my hard work.

While I was there, I blamed my boss, the environment, or the situation for my unhappiness. But reading Extreme Ownership made me realize I was complicit in my misery. I stayed in that job for three and a half years, comfortably miserable, without actively seeking other opportunities. It wasn’t until a friend offered to pass my resume to another company that I saw a way out. That experience taught me a hard truth: my choices, effort, and actions played a huge role in my happiness. I had to take ownership of my situation to change it.

Applying Extreme Ownership Today

It’s been 18 years since I left that smoke-filled office, and I now have a career I love, doing work that feels meaningful and fulfilling. But even now, it’s tempting to point fingers when things don’t go my way—to blame the company, circumstances, or others for my frustrations. Extreme Ownership reminds me that it’s on me to perform, to lead those around me, and to take responsibility for our collective goals. As Willink and Babin put it, “Implementing Extreme Ownership requires checking your ego and operating with a high degree of humility” (Extreme Ownership, p. 76). It’s about owning my decisions, from my work to my fitness to every area of my life.

This mindset shift is transformative. Instead of complaining or feeling stuck, I’m learning to look in the mirror and ask, “What can I do to move forward?” Whether it’s tackling a work challenge, improving my health, or leading my team, extreme ownership has to become a way of life.

Your Turn

I can’t recommend Extreme Ownership enough. It’s a fantastic read (or listen!) for anyone looking to step up as a leader in their work, relationships, or personal growth. But I’m curious—what books are you reading right now? What lessons are sticking with you? Drop a comment below—I’d love to hear your thoughts and keep the conversation going.

Until tomorrow, keep moving forward!

Reference:

Willink, J., & Babin, L. (2015). Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. St. Martin’s Press.

Day 11 – 7-40 Challenge: Embrace the Suck – The Real Path to Mastering Anything Worth Doing

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Hey there, fellow achievers! Welcome to Day 11 of my 7-40 Challenge, where I’m tackling seven habits over 40 days to supercharge my life, crush my to-do list, and finally propel myself forward. If you’re just tuning in, this is my quest to build momentum through small, consistent actions. And today’s habit? Reading (or in my case, listening) for 30 minutes a day.

Look, 30 minutes might not sound revolutionary, but let’s be real – I’ve gone months without cracking open a book. It’s not that I hate knowledge; I devour it. But sitting still with a physical book? That’s been my kryptonite. Enter audiobooks: my secret weapon. I can be out for a long walk, like I was today, pop in my earbuds, and dive into over a million titles on Audible or wherever. It’s multitasking magic.

Right now, I’m hooked on Creative Calling by Chase Jarvis – a powerhouse book that’s lighting a fire under my creative pursuits. And today, one idea hit me like a ton of bricks: To truly excel at any craft, to master any skill, you’ve got to grind it out.. and then be okay with sucking at it for a bit.

The Hard Truth: Work Hard, Suck Harder (At First)

What do I mean? Success isn’t about natural talent alone. It’s about showing up, putting in the reps, and embracing the awkward phase where you’re just… not great yet.

Take singing, for example. Suppose I want to belt out a tune like a pro. Even with a dash of raw ability, I need to learn the lyrics, nail the melody, build breath control, and hit those notes consistently. Hours of practice later, and boom – that random flat note still sneaks in. Especially brutal when you’re onstage, spotlight glaring, crowd expecting magic… and you flop.

I know this pain intimately. Back in high school, I snagged a solo in our Christmas show: “I’ll Be Home for Christmas.” I was pumped. Practiced? Sure, but let’s be honest – not nearly as much as I should have. I stepped up, voice cracking on a high note so sour it could’ve curdled milk. Faces in the audience winced. Ouch.

But I powered through, finished the song, and slunk offstage red-faced. Did I learn my lesson right then? Nah. I shrugged it off with a “next time” mentality and blamed puberty for those pesky high notes. Youthful delusion at its finest.

The Lesson That Stuck: No Winging It Allowed

Fast-forward to today, and that memory is a goldmine of wisdom. If I want to crush anything – a performance, a project, a passion – I can’t wing it. Most of us can’t. Preparation is non-negotiable. You’ve got to invest the time, even if it means stumbling publicly.

So, how’s this playing out in my life now? Let’s break it down:

  • Physical Fitness: I’m not the athlete I dream of being. Not as lean as I’d like. Workouts leave me aching. But I show up. I sweat. I improve. Inch by inch, rep by rep – that’s the game.
  • Writing These Blog Posts: Pouring ideas onto the page that actually help you? It takes effort. Honesty. Vulnerability. Sometimes, my drafts suck. But I revise, share the raw stuff, and get better. If I want readers like you to nod along and think, “Wow, that’s spot on,” I have to risk putting out imperfect work.

The bottom line? Anything worth chasing demands hard work – and a thick skin for the “suck” phase. Embarrassment? It’s part of the package. But keep grinding, and you’ll emerge stronger, sharper, and satisfied.

Your Turn: What Lights Your Fire… and Scares You Silly?

Now, let’s flip the script to you, my awesome reader. What are you pursuing that sets your soul ablaze and gives you the jitters? I hope you’re diving into projects that excite and terrify in equal measure. Push yourself to create, to produce, even if the world doesn’t applaud right away. Keep moving. That’s where the magic happens.

For me, it’s about unleashing ideas – whether they land perfectly or not. They need to escape my head so I can grow, build resilience, and bask in that “job well done” glow.

Thanks for joining me on Day 11. Your support means the world. Catch you on Day 12 – let’s keep this momentum rolling! What’s one thing you’re willing to suck at today to master tomorrow? Drop it in the comments below. 🚀