The Right Mindset for Success

It’s day eight of my 100-day strong journey, and I’m finally starting to feel a sense of normalcy again. It’s a pleasant feeling, but I can’t afford to become complacent.

I’ve been reflecting on why this attempt is different from my previous failures, and I’ve come up with a couple of thoughts I’d like to share:

  1. The first crucial step is getting into the right mindset. The first time I successfully completed the 100-day strong challenge, I had reached a breaking point with my circumstances. I not only recognized the need for change, but I felt compelled to change. When I tried again earlier this year, my motivations were unclear, and I wasn’t in the right frame of mind. However, that has changed this time around. I’m back to viewing this as a necessary endeavor that must be accomplished.
  2. Being in the right mindset also means having clearly defined reasons for pushing forward. Over the past few months, I allowed some of my practices to slip and noticed I had become a bit complacent. I regained some weight I had previously lost. Considering these factors, my reasons for pursuing this challenge have become much clearer.

I believe that a key to success lies in failing and getting back up quickly. It’s irrational to think that we’ll never encounter failure, and expecting perfection is borderline insane. Instead, we must practice picking ourselves up as soon as we stumble or realize that we’ve fallen.

There’s no magic formula to it. I simply need to be aware of the goal I’m pursuing and relentlessly pursue it until I achieve it. Sometimes success comes swiftly, while other times it takes considerably longer. The important thing is to keep moving forward. It all begins with the right frame of mind.

Seeing an old story with new eyes

What story do you know well? So well that you could tell it in your sleep? Or what thing can you do that you no longer need to practice? You know, the one that just comes so easy it is like breathing? Do you know all there is to know about it? You might say yes, but we both know the answer is no.

I took my family to see a musical today called “His Story” (you can check it out here: https://hisstorythemusical.com/). It is a pop musical based on the life of Jesus. Some historical liberties were taken with a few of the characters, but the heart and soul of the story of Jesus and His love were there. I didn’t know what to expect when I went in, but a few songs in, I found myself sitting on the edge of my seat. I thoroughly enjoyed it.

I know the story of Jesus well. I grew up in the church and have considered myself a believer for over 40 years (I made a confession of faith at a very young age and have never doubted it). When I encounter old stories and gain new insights, I get very excited. I love discovering that there is more depth, more to know, and more to believe.

This happened in two ways during the musical.

Mary Magdalene: I am not sure if the portrayal was historically accurate. However, it was a stirring portrayal of a woman who was far away from God and then encountered the love of Jesus. The Book of Luke tells us that Mary had been freed from seven demons. In the musical, she said that she was too broken to be loved. In the Bible and in the musical, Jesus loved her anyway. He cut through all the brokenness and mess and restored her. He loved her with a God-sized love.

There was a line in the song between Mary Magdalene and Jesus that struck me. Jesus looked into her eyes and told her, “Your darkness doesn’t scare me.” How many times have I felt that I have done things that are too much for God’s love? Have you ever felt that way? And then He looks at us and reminds us that He is the light that drives out the darkness. It doesn’t scare Him. This scene moved me today.

Judas: The musical portrayed him as the tragic character he was. But in the show, he knew he was tragic. He believed he was unredeemable and broken, just like Mary Magdalene did. He was portrayed with that self-awareness before his encounter with Jesus and then appeared to almost believe. Just when he was almost there, the enemy came in and reminded him of who he thought he was, and Judas believed it.

Please note, I said who Judas thought he was. He never fully grasped the picture of who he could be if he had fully surrendered to Jesus. The Bible tells us he was crooked. He was the treasurer of the group and loved to line his own pockets. I am reminded of the scene from “Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves” where Friar Tuck asks the Bishop if he is a man of God or a man of Gold. Judas most certainly was a man of gold. Well, silver anyway.

In today’s presentation, he was more human than I have ever seen him. I have tried before to see through his eyes, to understand what the betrayal at the end must have felt like. The actor helped bring that out in a new and fresh way. “Tragic” only begins to tell the story.

All in all, I was blown away by what I saw and heard. If you are in the market for a new show to see, check out the link above and give it a watch. You won’t be disappointed.

Choosing the next right thing

It is day 6 of being back on the right path. I am starting to remember how this feels. I like it. It feels good to be exerting control over my goals again.

Here are some thoughts from week one:

1. If there is a goal to be achieved during the day, you have to start early. Twice this week I have had crazy busy days and I had to finish my list of daily goals after 10 pm. Not the best way to do it.

2. Routine is normal. You just have to choose the routine you want to follow. Choosing to eat the right things and exercise takes the same energy as choosing not to if you plan out what you are going to do. Choose the routine and do it. Not choosing is still choosing.

3. Incremental wins is where long term change comes from. Learning to do the small stuff over and over is what is going to take me to my goals.

That is it for tonight. Time to finish week one strong tomorrow. Let’s do this. #100daysstrong

Hydrated

I have a confession to make. I don’t enjoy drinking water. I drink it, but I prefer it strained through coffee beans. I try my best to get at least 100 ounces of (non-coffee bean) water a day. In my struggle to motivate myself to stay hydrated, I did some searching to find the benefits (which I know are plenty). Here’s what I discovered:

  1. Performing your best: Water is crucial for maintaining our physical performance. It helps regulate body temperature, lubricate joints, and deliver nutrients to our cells. When we engage in physical activities, we lose water through sweat, and if we don’t replenish it, dehydration can occur. This leads to fatigue, muscle cramps, and reduced endurance. By staying hydrated, we optimize our physical performance and improve our ability to exercise efficiently.
  2. Thinking clearly and having energy: Did you know that even mild dehydration can affect our cognitive abilities? Research shows that dehydration can impair short-term memory, focus, and overall brain function. Since the brain is mostly composed of water, staying hydrated ensures proper blood flow and oxygen supply, which supports optimal brain function. So, next time you’re struggling to concentrate, reach for a glass of water instead of a cup of coffee.
  3. Water and the gut: Water is crucial for maintaining a healthy digestive system. It helps break down food, facilitates nutrient absorption, and prevents constipation. Insufficient hydration can lead to digestive issues like indigestion and acid reflux. By drinking enough water, we support our digestive processes and keep our gastrointestinal system functioning smoothly.
  4. Want to lose weight?: If you’re trying to shed a few pounds or maintain a healthy weight, staying hydrated can be your secret weapon. Often, we mistake thirst for hunger and end up consuming unnecessary calories. By drinking water regularly, we keep our stomachs full, avoid unnecessary snacking, and enhance our metabolism. Also, replacing sugary beverages with water can significantly reduce calorie intake and help with weight management.
  5. Getting rid of toxins: Water is the primary means by which our body eliminates waste and toxins. It flushes out waste products through urine and sweat, keeping our kidneys and liver functioning optimally. Proper hydration helps prevent urinary tract infections and kidney stones, and it also promotes healthy skin by keeping it hydrated and aiding in the removal of toxins that can cause acne and other skin issues.

Another confession… I don’t really hate water. I know it’s good for me, and staying hydrated is important. Water is not only crucial for maintaining our physical well-being, but it also plays a significant role in our cognitive functions and overall health. By making a conscious effort to drink enough water every day, we can enhance our physical performance, support our brain function, maintain a healthy weight, aid digestion, and promote detoxification. So, whether you like it or not…drink it.

Yeah, that’s an HR violation.

What jobs have you had?

Have you ever had a job that you didn’t enjoy? I mean, one that you really didn’t like at all? What comes to your mind? Can you picture it clearly? Well, I can. It was a doozy.

Let me set the stage… My first two jobs after college were at churches. I either led the music or looked after the youth. Eventually, I realized that line of work wasn’t for me, but they were somewhat enjoyable jobs.

My horror story job came not after that. It was early 2003 when I stopped working at the church. It had been obvious for a while that it was time to leave, so I took a leap and quit without any plans or fallback options. It was time to find a new job.

I started sending out resumes and applying for jobs. However, for some reason, my sociology degree didn’t seem attractive to prospective employers. I ended up working at a Thomas Kinkade art gallery for a little while, which wasn’t really my style. After that, I worked at Pizza Hut. It wasn’t exactly a step up in the world, but at least I got to enjoy free pizza.

After those two “wonderful” experiences, I stumbled upon one of the worst working environments I have ever encountered. I got a job spraying yards for a company in Oklahoma City. There were early signs that it wouldn’t be a good job, and boy, was I proven right.

Let me break this down into three sections, with the third section being the reason for the title of this post.

  1. Not long after starting work there, I found out that employee retention was poor. Being young and a bit naive, I initially thought it might have been the employees’ problem and that I would do better than they did. However, I soon discovered that the management of the company was unfit to handle their roles. They frequently used guilt to make employees stay late and do more work than they should have.
  2. At that point in my life, I was juggling two jobs. I worked for the grass company during the day and delivered pizzas at night. I remember one instance when my work truck broke down along the side of the highway. I knew I would be late for my evening job, but I thought that if someone could come and pick me up, I might still make it in time. When I called the company, they had me describe the issue. They told me there was no one they could send to fix the truck and that they would guide me through fixing it. The “solution” involved taking one of the shoestrings out of my shoes and using it to bind part of the throttle to the engine. Redneck for sure. To be truthful, I wasn’t upset about having to work on the truck on the side of the road; I was upset because my day job showed no consideration for anything I had planned outside of their activities. On a side note, I was pretty pleased that I managed to get the truck running with my shoestring.
  3. The worst part about working there was what was tolerated within the workspace. The guy who trained me was a full-blown pornography addict. It was all he could talk about. I spent my training time riding in a truck with a guy who tried to engage me in the most uncomfortable discussions I’ve ever had in my life. He loved using descriptive language. He even went so far as to pat me on the rear end in front of one of the managers. I looked him straight in the face, right in front of the management, and told him that if he touched me again, I would break his face. I think he finally got the message. The managers never said a word.

Why am I telling these stories this evening? It’s good to remember. It’s good to remember where we come from and what we’ve gone through. It serves as a reminder of how far I’ve come and how much I have to be thankful for.

As an older man, I now know what I am willing and what I am not willing to accept in the workplace. The stories I told you predate the modern era of HR policy. I know the workplace environment should be much better than what I have described. I’m thankful for that as well.

If you find yourself in a place where you’re uncomfortable, you’re not alone. Know that you have skills and abilities, and there are options out there if you’re willing to be persistent and look around. I am proof that even with an undergraduate degree and a field I had no desire to work in, you can find things you love to do and do them well.