Facing the Mirror: My 7-40 Challenge and Why It’s Time to Get Unstuck

Hey there, friends. If you’ve ever stared into the mirror and wondered who that person staring back really is—frustrated, a bit burned out, maybe not quite where you thought you’d be—then pull up a chair. This is for you.  I’ve been feeling that pull to do something about the goals rattling around inside me. They can’t just live in my head anymore; it’s time to act. And if I can start getting unstuck, maybe there’s hope for you too.

Seven years ago, I was lying in a chemotherapy bed, my body giving up on me—or at least trying to. No hair, no strength, not knowing if I’d see tomorrow. But by the grace of God, I survived. I got better. Yet here I am, not taking care of this body as well as I should. I’m stronger than ever in some ways, but heavier too—a paradox I’m not fond of. My knees ache, my back hurts and I am not where I want to be physically. I’m not getting any younger, and that mirror reflection? It’s a mix of frustration and a wake-up call. It’s the face of a guy who’s had enough and is ready to fight back.

That’s why I’ve launched my own challenge: the 7-40 Challenge. Seven habits, practiced over 40 days, to build resilience and take those small, incremental steps toward the life I want. Why 40 days? It doesn’t sound long, but think about it—biblically, 40 days flooded the Earth, 40 days Jesus spent in the wilderness facing temptation. There’s a spiritual weight to it, a chance for real transformation if I lean in. And I’m excited to see what I can achieve—and what you could too.

Here are the seven habits I’m committing to:

  1. Daily Bible study and prayer. Starting my day with Scripture and talking to God brings everything into focus. It clears my mind, and sets a foundation for the rest of my day.
  2. Exercise for an hour daily. Not forever, but for now, it’s the jumpstart my body needs. Getting moving, building strength without the inflammation or pain holding me back.
  3. Tracking all my calories in MyFitnessPal. I’ve set a daily limit to hit my weight loss goals—about 50 pounds to shed. No more guessing; it’s all accountable.
  4. Drinking 100 ounces or more of water per day. Hydration lubricates my joints, boosts my health, and just makes everything function better. Simple, but game-changing.
  5. Focusing on gratitude. This one’s huge. I strive to start everything with thanks—to God, to the people in my life, for the breath in my lungs. Gratitude flips frustration on its head.
  6. Reading inspiring material for 30 minutes a day. Right now, it’s Creative Calling by Chase Jarvis, soaking in ideas to fuel my creativity and apply new habits.
  7. Spending time writing or working on future business projects. For the past eight days (yep, I’m on day eight as I write this), it’s been pouring into my blog, getting these thoughts out and building toward bigger ideas.

The real magic? Starting from gratitude, even when you feel the deficit. I’ve worked on these goals before and seen no progress—it estranges you from yourself. But getting upset just drives you deeper down. Instead, I look in the mirror and remember the man with no hair from chemo, the one who almost didn’t make it. I’m thankful for this chance, for my next breath, to tell my family I love them, to chase passions. If you’re still moving, it’s not over. You have a shot to make a difference in your life and others’.

We think we need to conquer the mountain in one massive climb, but it’s the little ones that get us there. Take the other night—9:30 PM, exhausted after a hectic day. I’d only knocked out three of my seven habits. Four left staring me down. The easy choice? Let it slide. “One day won’t hurt,” right? But that’s a lie; it’s foundational. So I laced up my sneakers, went for that walk, listened to my book, finished my blog post, and chugged the rest of my water. It took until 11 PM, but I did it. The sleepy fog the next morning? Just a reminder I’d stayed true.

Gritting it out like that—willing yourself to keep going—it’s worth it. Those incremental wins build momentum. Life knocks us down, whether it’s sickness, burnout, or just the daily grind. But the choices we make to get back up? They matter. Start with gratitude for where you are, even if it’s not perfect. You’ve got people on your side, worthwhile things to do, blessings you didn’t earn. What challenge can’t we face from there?

If this resonates, leave me a message in the comments. Let’s look in that mirror, hold grace for the people we see, and take one small step. I’m doing it, and if a guy like me can get unstuck, so can you. Let’s keep moving—it’s not over yet.

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