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Embracing Extreme Ownership: A Journey of Personal Growth

Welcome back, friends! Today, I’m diving into my 7-40 Challenge—a personal quest to build seven daily habits over 40 days. We’re well into this journey, and despite my occasional confusion about what day it is (is it day 24 or 25? Day 24.), I’m making solid progress. One of my key habits is dedicating 30 minutes a day to reading or listening to a book, and let me tell you, it’s been a game-changer.

The Struggle with Paper Books

I’ll be honest: sitting down with a physical book is tough for me. It’s not that I don’t love a good story or crave knowledge—I do! I once devoured a James Patterson novel and a John Grisham thriller in a single weekend. But holding a book up to my face? It just doesn’t click. Over the years, I’ve realized I’m an auditory learner. Audiobooks let me process information faster and more effectively. Thanks to Audible, I’ve built an extensive collection of audiobooks, and I keep adding to it. They’re my go-to for soaking up stories and ideas while I’m on the move.

For this challenge, I started with Creative Calling by Chase Jarvis, which was inspiring, and dipped into Building a StoryBrand 2.0 by Donald Miller, but it didn’t feel like the right time for it. Then I picked up Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, and wow—this book is hitting all the right notes.

Why Extreme Ownership Resonates

Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win is a powerhouse of leadership principles drawn from the authors’ experiences as Navy SEALs in Iraq. Willink and Babin share gripping stories from the battlefield and translate those lessons into practical strategies for business and everyday life. As someone who deeply admires soldiers for their courage, discipline, and fitness, I’m captivated by their ability to take high-stakes lessons from war and apply them to leadership.

The core principle of the book—extreme ownership—has me reflecting hard on my own life. As Willink and Babin write, “On any team, in any organization, all responsibility for success and failure rests with the leader. The leader must own everything in his or her world. There is no one else to blame” (Extreme Ownership, p. 30). This idea challenges leaders to take full responsibility—not just for their own actions but for the outcomes of their entire team. It’s about setting a clear vision, communicating effectively, and guiding your people toward a shared purpose.

A Lesson from the Past

This concept of ownership hits home when I think about a job I had in the mid-2000s. I worked in an office that was, frankly, a tough environment. The owner smoked four to six cigars a day, and stepping into the office was like walking into a smoky bar. By the end of the day, I reeked so badly that my wife wouldn’t kiss me until I showered and ditched my clothes. Beyond the smoke, the workplace was dysfunctional. Expectations were unclear, communication was spotty, and I felt stuck, frustrated, and unnoticed despite my hard work.

While I was there, I blamed my boss, the environment, or the situation for my unhappiness. But reading Extreme Ownership made me realize I was complicit in my misery. I stayed in that job for three and a half years, comfortably miserable, without actively seeking other opportunities. It wasn’t until a friend offered to pass my resume to another company that I saw a way out. That experience taught me a hard truth: my choices, effort, and actions played a huge role in my happiness. I had to take ownership of my situation to change it.

Applying Extreme Ownership Today

It’s been 18 years since I left that smoke-filled office, and I now have a career I love, doing work that feels meaningful and fulfilling. But even now, it’s tempting to point fingers when things don’t go my way—to blame the company, circumstances, or others for my frustrations. Extreme Ownership reminds me that it’s on me to perform, to lead those around me, and to take responsibility for our collective goals. As Willink and Babin put it, “Implementing Extreme Ownership requires checking your ego and operating with a high degree of humility” (Extreme Ownership, p. 76). It’s about owning my decisions, from my work to my fitness to every area of my life.

This mindset shift is transformative. Instead of complaining or feeling stuck, I’m learning to look in the mirror and ask, “What can I do to move forward?” Whether it’s tackling a work challenge, improving my health, or leading my team, extreme ownership has to become a way of life.

Your Turn

I can’t recommend Extreme Ownership enough. It’s a fantastic read (or listen!) for anyone looking to step up as a leader in their work, relationships, or personal growth. But I’m curious—what books are you reading right now? What lessons are sticking with you? Drop a comment below—I’d love to hear your thoughts and keep the conversation going.

Until tomorrow, keep moving forward!

Reference:

Willink, J., & Babin, L. (2015). Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. St. Martin’s Press.

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Day 20 of the 7-40 Challenge: Rediscovering Focus and Embracing Authenticity

Hey there, friends! Welcome to Day 20 of my 7-40 Challenge—a 40-day journey where I’m committing to seven daily habits to sharpen my skills, clarify my priorities, and make real progress on what matters most. We’re at the halfway mark, and I’m going to be real with you: I’m feeling a bit discouraged. But this isn’t a story of defeat—it’s a raw, honest reflection on staying true to my goals and reigniting the fire to keep going. Let’s dive in.

The Struggle Is Real

Life is busy. There’s no sugarcoating it. Between work, family, and the endless stream of notifications, it’s so easy to get sidetracked. I set out on this challenge to focus on what’s important, but 20 days in, I’m realizing how tempting it is to let distractions take the wheel. Some days, I get to the end of the day and see a to-do list that’s still glaring at me, unfinished. It stings. I’ve made progress, don’t get me wrong—but I know I can do better. I want to do better.

The truth is, anything worth doing is worth doing well. I’ve heard that saying my whole life, and it’s hitting home hard right now. So, as I stand at this halfway point, I’m taking a moment to reflect on my seven habits, recommit to my purpose, and sharpen my focus for the next 20 days. Let’s walk through each goal together—not just to hold myself accountable, but to remind myself (and maybe you) why these things matter.

My Seven Habits: Why They’re Worth It

Here’s a breakdown of the seven daily habits I’m working on, why they matter to me, and where I need to step up my game.

1. Bible Study and Prayer
Every morning, I start my day in God’s Word. This habit is my anchor—it sharpens my mind, aligns my heart, and sets me up to be a light to others. I want to live out His will and make a positive impact. This one’s been non-negotiable, and I’m proud to say I’ve stuck with it. It’s not just a task; it’s a lifeline that keeps me grounded.

2. 60 Minutes of Exercise
Here’s where I need to get real. My goal is 60 minutes of intentional exercise daily, but my Apple Watch sometimes gives me credit for “exercise minutes” when I’m just walking or moving around. That’s not what I signed up for. I want focused, purposeful workouts to get stronger and healthier. For the second half of this challenge, I’m recommitting to making exercise a priority, not an afterthought.

3. Drinking 100 Ounces of Water
Okay, why is this so hard? I love my coffee and tea, but hitting 100 ounces of water every day feels like climbing a mountain. I’m struggling to stay consistent, so I’m setting a new mini-goal: 64 ounces by lunch. It’s time to stop making excuses and hydrate like I mean it.

4. Logging My Calories
This one’s been a win. I’ve tracked my calories every day, and it’s giving me a clearer picture of my eating habits. Some days, I’m on point; others, when I’m tired or craving comfort food, my calories creep up. My bigger goal is to get fit and feel good in my body, so I’m going to keep fine-tuning this habit to stay on track.

5. Practicing Gratitude
Gratitude isn’t just saying “thank you”—it’s a call to action. It’s about being so thankful for the blessings in my life—my family, my work, my home, my friends—that I’m moved to do good and love others well. I wrote about this on my blog recently, and it’s a reminder that gratitude should fuel excellence in everything I do. I want to lean into this even more, showing my thankfulness through my actions.

6. Reading or Listening to Audiobooks for 30 Minutes
This habit has been a joy. Whether I’m walking or chilling, I’ve been diving into audiobooks for at least 30 minutes a day. I finished Creative Calling by Chase Jarvis and started Building a StoryBrand by Donald Miller (the 2.0 version). These books are sharpening my mind and sparking new ideas. I’m excited to keep this going and see where it takes me.

7. Writing or Creating for My Personal Business
Every day, I’m writing on my blog, recapping my 7-40 Challenge journey. This isn’t just about checking a box—it’s about sharing my story to encourage and motivate others. But I want to get clearer on my message. These habits aren’t random; they’re about becoming a better version of myself so I can inspire others to do the same.

Refocusing for the Finish Line

As I look at these goals, I’m reminded that they’re not just tasks—they’re investments in who I want to be. Distraction only creeps in when I lose sight of that. By walking through each habit, I’m reigniting my motivation and sharpening my focus for the next 20 days. I’m not here to cram these habits into the margins of my day; I’m here to make them the heartbeat of my routine.

So, what’s the takeaway? Authenticity and focus go hand in hand. Being honest about my struggles—whether it’s getting distracted or struggling with water intake—helps me realign with my purpose. This challenge isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress. It’s about showing up, even when it’s hard, and choosing to do the work that matters.

Your Turn: What’s Your Focus?

I’m heading into the second half of this challenge with renewed energy, ready to tackle these habits with intention and excellence. But I want to hear from you. What are you working on? Is your focus razor-sharp, or are you wrestling with distractions like me? Drop a comment below and share your journey—I’d love to hear how you’re staying motivated and what’s keeping you going.

Here’s to Day 21 and beyond. Let’s do some good work!

David Willis Blog

Day 17 of the 7-40 Challenge: Let Gratitude Light Your Fire

Hey there! Welcome to day seventeen of my 7-40 challenge, where I’m pouring my heart into sharpening my skills, building unstoppable momentum, and keeping my eyes fixed on what truly matters. Today, I’m sitting here with a heart so full it might just burst—not from anything grand or flashy, but from the quiet, powerful glow of gratitude. And I want to share that warmth with you, because gratitude? It’s not just a feeling. It’s a spark that can set your whole world ablaze in the best way possible.

Let me paint you a picture. Tonight, I’m reflecting on all the blessings in my life—my faith, my family, the opportunities I’ve been given, and the endless love that surrounds me. It’s like a cozy fire in my chest, warming me from the inside out. And it’s got me thinking about something Albert Schweitzer once said: “At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person; each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”

Those words hit me hard because they remind me that gratitude isn’t meant to sit still. It’s not a quiet moment of reflection that fades when the day ends. No, gratitude is a call to action—a nudge to take that spark and pass it on, to light someone else’s flame and keep the cycle going.

Let’s get real for a second. Gratitude isn’t just saying “thank you” and moving on. It’s about doing something with it. It’s about taking that warmth in your heart and turning it into movement, into impact. For me, that’s been so clear in this season of change. I recently made a big move—new city, new job, new chapter. My old job? It was good. It had its highs and lows, familiar faces, and steady routines. I was grateful for it, truly. But deep down, I knew I needed a change. I wanted to be closer to family, to step into something that felt like a better fit for who I am and who I’m becoming. And then this new company came along and gave me a chance. A real chance to shine. I’m so thankful for that—not just for the job, but for the opportunity to show up, work hard, and prove that their trust in me wasn’t misplaced.

That gratitude? It didn’t just make me smile on day one and call it a day. It lit a fire under me. It’s pushing me to bring my A-game, to add value, to lift others up as I go. I want to earn every opportunity I’m given and create more for those around me. That’s what gratitude does—it moves you. It’s not about chasing rewards or recognition. It’s about saying “thank you” by doing good with what you’ve been given. It’s about keeping that cycle of thankfulness alive, sparking it in others so they can feel it too.

So, here’s my challenge to you today: pause for a moment and think about what’s filling your heart with gratitude. Maybe it’s the people who’ve believed in you, the small wins that keep you going, or the simple beauty of a sunrise that reminds you life is good. Whatever it is, hold it close. Let it warm you. And then—here’s the important part—do something with it. How can you turn that gratitude into action? Maybe it’s a kind word to someone who needs it, a helping hand, or a bold step toward a dream you’ve been holding back on. Whatever it is, let gratitude be your fuel.

I’d love to hear from you. What’s got your heart glowing with thankfulness today? And how are you turning that gratitude into something real, something that moves the needle for you or someone else? Drop it in the comments below—let’s inspire each other and keep this spark alive.

Here’s to day seventeen, to gratitude that moves us. I’ll see you tomorrow for day eighteen, ready to keep this journey going strong. Keep shining, friends—you’ve got this!

David Willis Blog

Day 7 of the 7-40 Challenge: Unleashing My Inner Blogger – And Why You Should Too!

Hey there, thank you for tuning in and welcome to Day 7 of the 7-40 Challenge. For the uninitiated, this is my bold experiment: committing to seven transformative habits over 40 straight days to crank up my life’s impact, rack up those small wins, and spark some serious personal growth. We’re talking daily habits that build momentum, one brick at a time.

Today, on Day 7, I’m zeroing in on the habit that’s been my white whale for years: recording my daily adventures and thoughts. Yeah, you heard that right – blogging, journaling, or whatever you want to call this act of putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard). It’s not just about spilling my guts; it’s about capturing the chaos, the triumphs, and the “aha” moments that make up this awesome adventure called life.

The Struggle is Real: Why Blogging Has Been My Nemesis

Look, this doesn’t come naturally to me. I envy people I know who effortlessly document their lives with killer photos, snappy captions, or heartfelt essays. They’re out there living their best #DocumentedLife, while I show flickers of promise every once in a while.  Over the years, I’ve dipped my toes in, but consistency? That’s been my Achilles’ heel. Why? Let me break it down into the three brutal truths that have held me back – and how I’m smashing through them.

1. Time: The Ultimate Excuse (That I’m No Longer Buying)

Crafting words that flow? It takes effort, folks. In the whirlwind of a packed day – work, workouts, family, you name it – carving out time felt like an impossible quest. But guess what? Over these last seven days, I’ve proven to myself that it’s doable. It’s all about laser focus, even when my attention span wants to play hooky. No more excuses; I’m owning my sporadic focus and turning it into a superpower. If I can squeeze it in, so can you!

2. The Self-Doubt Monster: Is My Voice Even Worth It?

Here’s the raw truth: I want my words to matter. I believe my unique take on life – the insights, the inspirations, the uplifting thoughts – could light a fire under someone else’s doubt. But that nagging self-doubt creeps in: Is this really worth anyone’s time? Then I snap out of it. This isn’t just for you, dear reader; it’s for me. Documenting my journey lets me track progress, celebrate those golden nuggets of growth, and hold myself accountable. It’s like a daily mirror showing where I started and how far I’ve come. Self-doubt? Consider it evicted.

3. Daily Content: What If I Run Out of “Interesting”?

Finding something fresh and fascinating to share every single day? Daunting, right? But then I think about the rockstars out there: YouTubers dropping daily vlogs, podcasters churning out episodes, creators flooding the world with content. They’re not reinventing the wheel every time – they’re showing up consistently, adding their voice to the mix, making the world a tad brighter or bolder. They’re saying the things that need to be said, day in and day out.

That’s the magic I’m chasing in this challenge: finding my voice. Building it brick by brick, figuring out what fires me up, where to direct my energy, and how my experiences can create real impact. It’s not about perfection; it’s about persistence.

Your Turn: Time to Document Your Epic Saga?

So, spill the beans – do you document your life? Got stories, ideas, or wild thoughts you wish you could capture and share with the world? Maybe, like me, you’ve been waiting for the “perfect” moment. Well, newsflash: that moment is now. Sometimes, it takes a structured challenge to kick things into gear. Trust me, once you start, you’ll wonder why you waited so long. I’m dedicated to the long haul. Let’s keep moving forward. 

Thanks a ton for hanging with me on Day 7. If you’ve got any tips, thoughts, or your own blogging battles to share, drop a comment below. I would so appreciate the feedback. Stay tuned for the next post – we’ve got 33 more days of awesomeness ahead.

David Willis Blog

What does it mean to communicate?

I have a confession to make. I love words. I love looking at the definitions of words to see how the they work. I like to examine them and see how I can use them to better explain whatever it is I am trying to explain. Sometimes I discover I had no idea what the word meant and that I have been misusing it for years…

This morning as I started to sketch out the purpose of this post, I started to examine the word communicate. Here is the first definition that came up:

com-mu-ni-cate | verb

Share or exchange information, news, or ideas. To succeed in conveying one’s ideas or in evoking understanding in others.

When I first started reading the definition I felt it was incomplete. If communicating only involved the sharing of ideas, we would all be excellent communicators. Just shout what you want people to hear as loud as you can and viola! Job complete…it isn’t that easy is it? In a word, no.

The second part of the definition I outlined brought the meaning into focus. To succeed in conveying one’s ideas and evoking understanding in others. This, in my opinion, is the heart of communication…understanding. (Side note: This definition said nothing of creating agreement in your listener. When our audience understands us, it does not mean they necessarily agree with us. That is a different topic all together.)

In striving to be a good communicator, I am actively trying to convey my ideas and evoke understanding in my listeners. This is through the words that I say and the way that I say them. There is another element to this though. To share ideas means there is more than just one person involved. Communication is not one sided.

The final line of the first definition states:

(Of two people) be able to share and understand each other’s thoughts and feelings.

Ok, why have I taken you on a definition tour today? I believe that you have important things to say. You have a viewpoint that you need to share. You have thoughts about the world and the way that it works. You have things that you are passionate about and need to share it. Will everyone agree with you? No. That isn’t the point. It is still the way you see the world.

However, as we learn to more effectively communicate, something very interesting happens. People understand us better, yes. We also start to understand others in a way that we haven’t before. We have the opportunity to broaden our perspective. We have a chance to see things differently than we may have before. We change our minds. We sharpen our viewpoints. We evolve and grow.

Effective communication brings us together. I may not agree with everything you tell me, but we have a much better chance of seeing eye to eye if we understand where the other is coming from and why. That understanding can break down walls. Truly communicating is powerful stuff.