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The Greatest Joy of My Life: Gratitude Sunday and My Son

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Day 39 of the 7-40 Challenge
Sunday, February 8, 2026
Gratitude Sunday – The Thank You Campaign

Hello and welcome to Day 39. It’s Gratitude Sunday, and another post in my Thank You Campaign.

The topic of today’s post is my son.

The Dream

When my wife and I first got married, we dreamed about our future. We talked about the size of the family we would want. We made plans and looked forward with expectancy for when our children would arrive.

When we were younger, we dreamed of having a very large family—as many as God would give us. That’s what I used to like to say.

We were married when we were 20 years old. We weren’t quite ready to start having children right after getting married, so we waited around five years before we began planning for our children to arrive.

The Threat

It was about that same time that I had my first bout with testicular cancer.

To say that this was the opposite of what we wanted is a very true statement. Because of the part of the body that cancer attacks, and because of having to have that tumor removed, we were uncertain if we would be able to have children at all.

So we went from praying and hoping for a very large family to the very real possibility of just it being a family of two—just my wife and me.

By God’s grace and through His healing, I was cancer-free by the middle of 2005, with a new lease on life and hope that we would be able to, in time, have the children we had prayed for.

The Moment

Fast forward to the fall of 2007.

I remember very clearly lying in bed and seeing the bathroom light come on. And watching my bride stand there with that little indicator in her hand.

It was finally time. It was finally real.

We were going to have a baby.

It was almost five years after we had first started praying and almost ten years after we had gotten married. But our baby was on the way. And we were so excited.

The Birth

Fast forward to the day of his birth in 2008.

After a very long labor period—two and a half days—he was born. When he was delivered, he had an Apgar score of one. They were very concerned about him.

I wasn’t in the room when he was born due to complications. I didn’t find out about the Apgar score until they handed him over to me.

But within minutes, that score had improved to an eight.

Answered prayer. Confirmed relief.

And very soon, Mama, baby, and me were in our hospital room.

The Joy

I will never forget the look of joy and absolute elation on my darling wife’s face.

She had just been through two and a half days of labor, trying to have our son naturally. She had endured a lot of physical duress. She was exhausted. She was beat up.

And you would not have been able to see any of that at that moment. She was transfixed. She was in love.

I wish I had several photographs of that little moment in time to show the picture I have burned in my memory. (Thank God, the iPhone had been invented by then—I do have one.)

She had finally become who she was meant to be in one regard. She was my wife, and now she was our son’s mother.

And the world was right.

The Reality

Fast forward all these years.

The family we thought would be very large is just the three of us. We will still take whatever God gives. But at the same time, I can’t neglect to say: our son has been one of the greatest joys in our lives.

He is so smart and so funny. He is so kind and compassionate. He’s full of character and resolve. He is a perfect blend of his mother and me—and he’s becoming so much more than we are.

It has been such a privilege and a joy to watch him do that.

We tell him from time to time how grateful we are for him. How proud we are of him.

What He Changed

This young man changed my life in so many ways.

He has been one of the catalysts that brought out my work ethic in my late twenties and early thirties.

I remember holding him for the first time, not long after he was born, knowing I would work myself to the bone to provide for our family. That I would do whatever it took to make sure they are taken care of.

I think every parent goes to that moment—where you realize that no matter what it takes, you’ll do it to provide for your family and children. That translated into me getting much more focused on the opportunities I had in front of me in my data career, which I’ve had since before he was born.

And that determination has only intensified over the years.

I now look forward to getting to support him even more as he becomes an adult, as he finds the things he is even more passionate about.

Son

If you’re reading these words, know this:

Your mother and I are so proud of you. We’re so thankful for you. We are so grateful that you are our son.

Not a day goes by that I don’t feel that gratefulness in my heart.

It is one of the greatest joys of my life to be your daddy. I am proud of you and who you are.

Day 39: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. Gratitude Sunday honored.

Round 1 Progress: 39/40 days (97.5%)

One more day until Round 1 is complete.

See you tomorrow for Day 40.

What If 40 Days Could Change Everything? Day 38

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Day 38 of the 7-40 Challenge
Saturday, February 7, 2026

Hello and welcome to Day 38. I’m excited because I’ve been getting stuff done, and it just makes me happy.

Today’s post is going to be a short one. I just want to leave you with a thought for today.

What if 40 days could put you on a completely different path?

The Question

What if making a plan, making goals, following habits for 40 days could give you new perspective and lead you somewhere you didn’t think you could get?

Would you be willing to spend 40 days to get that done?

As I’ve been working through these seven habits for the last 38 days, I’ve been pleasantly surprised with the amount I’ve been able to accomplish—because I’ve given myself the freedom every day with these habits to actually achieve the things I want to achieve.

What 38 Days Actually Did

Thirty-eight days in, I’ve already lost 12 pounds. I’ve revised a novel. I’ve started working on another one. I’ve watched my eating. I’ve done all kinds of things I’ve just been trying to get done, and I finally started having some traction.

Over 40 days.

And the thing I have to think to myself is: Is this really all it took to get this stuff done? Was I really able to do this in 40 days just by saying “now is the time, I’m going to get it done”?

The answer, apparently, is yes.

So How About You?

Are you willing to take a chance? Name out the things you want to accomplish and spend the next 40 days doing it?

If you’re up for it, I start my next 40-day round 10 days from now (February 17, 2026).

I have a week where I’m going to refine my own goals and get ready for Round 2.

But if you’re willing to join in, I would love to hang out with you for Round 2 and get this done together.

What I’m Asking

Pick YOUR seven daily habits. Not mine—yours. The ones that move you toward the goals you actually care about.

Then starting February 17, we do this together. You work your seven habits. I work mine. We check in. We encourage each other. We see what 40 days can actually do.

If you’re interested, comment below and let me know you’re in. I’ll reach out and we’ll figure this out together.

This is the first time I’ve publicly invited anyone to actually DO this challenge with me. I have no idea if anyone will bite. But what the heck—I’m asking.

Because if 38 days did this for me, imagine what 40 days could do for you.

Day 38: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. Two days left in Round 1.

Round 1 Progress: 38/40 days (95%)

Weight: 277.1 lbs (12.4 lbs lost)

See you tomorrow for Day 39.

Your Goals Aren’t Just for You: Day 37

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Day 37 of the 7-40 Challenge
Friday, February 6, 2026

Welcome to Day 37. It’s the end of the week. It’s Friday. We made it.

And I’m excited. Excited to be here. Excited to still be going. Excited to still be accomplishing.

I’ve got a question for you today: Are your goals just for you?

I think the answer is no.

The Conversation That Brought It Home

I was having a conversation today with someone close to me. I mentioned I was on Day 37 of my journey and that I’d lost 12 pounds since I started.

They looked at me and said, “Seriously, how are you doing this?”

I said, “Okay, I can tell you. I have a number of calories I eat every day, and I exercise for an hour a day.”

And they gave me a look like… Oh.

Look, this is not a difficult concept to understand. The execution of this concept is not necessarily easy. But because I want the goal of being healthier, because I want to achieve my goal weight, because I want to be a better, fitter version of myself, I’m doing something that’s not complex—but the execution is hard.

Because, like I mentioned a couple days ago, everything worth doing in life that’s really worth doing is probably hard.

So we do it anyway.

We talked through it a little more. I said, “Hey, if you want to know more specifically, I’ll be glad to show you.”

And it made me realize: These things I’m doing are not just for me. They’re for the world around me.

Why I’ve Been Documenting Everything

That’s why I’ve been busy documenting and trying hard to live what I’m preaching every day.

Today is Day 37. My execution over these 37 days has been good. Not perfect—good.

I’ve achieved what I set out to achieve every day. I’ve had to make a couple of adjustments here or there. I fell last week and hurt my hand, so I had to give myself days off and time to recover. I stopped lifting weights but kept doing my other exercises.

Same principle applies. I keep moving forward.

Every day, I’ve stayed within or just at my calorie limit. Every day, I’ve drunk 100 ounces of water. Every day, I’ve read my Bible. Every day, I’ve had creative time and worked on projects that are important to me. Every day, I’ve read my book.

I’ve been doing these things that I set out to do, knowing full well that I want to be an example for others so they can achieve their goals as well.

It’s not just about me.

What Impact Could You Have?

So I ask you: What goals do you have? What things are set in front of you that are important to you, that you need to reach?

Have you considered what impact you could have on the world around you if you perform that goal, those tasks, if you pursue it with excellence and get it done?

You could be the inspiration somebody else needs—just as I hope I am being an inspiration to the world around me.

My mission is to help 1,000 people. Not just with health. Not just with fitness. But with faith. With goals. With becoming better and better and better.

And today, I got to see that mission up close. Someone I care about, watching what I’m doing, asking “how are you doing this?”—genuinely interested, genuinely skeptical, genuinely open to learning.

That’s overwhelming in the best way.

Don’t Wait

I know what you’re thinking: But I’ve got so far to go. I have so much I need to get done.

The best time to start is now.

I implore you: Don’t wait. Make that list. Get started today.

Let’s keep moving forward.

Day 37: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. End of week strong.

Round 1 Progress: 37/40 days (92.5%)

Weight: 277.1 lbs (12.4 lbs lost)

Three more days until Assessment Week.

Odd Things I’m Grateful For: Day 34 and the Space Gratitude Fills

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Day 34 of the 7-40 Challenge
Tuesday, February 3, 2026

I got to work at 6:00 AM this morning. I didn’t leave my office until 4:30 PM. I spent most of my day in meetings or working through data issues. It was mentally taxing.

But because of the program I have in place, I was able to get the things I needed to do done while also tackling all the unexpected things that came up.

It’s ingrained in my head now: I have things I need to accomplish every day. Even amidst the chaos of a busy workday, I track my calories. I drink my water. When I have an opportunity to get up and go for a walk, I do.

Just knowing I have things I need to accomplish every day—even in the chaos—is very beneficial.

I’m exhausted tonight. But Day 34 is complete.

Why Gratitude Is One of My Seven Daily Habits

Here’s the thought that’s been rolling around in my head today: Why do I focus so hard on gratitude as one of my seven daily habits?

What is it about practicing being and staying thankful that makes it an absolute must?

I don’t know about you, but I find that when I’m being thankful, it’s really hard to stay mad about anything. Whether it’s being cut off on the road, or somebody being rude to me at work, or just not getting done what I wanted to do—if I take a moment to take a deep breath and express gratitude for something in my life, I find that it’s really hard to stay angry.

It’s hard to let those negative emotions take over if gratitude is my natural position.

There’s Only So Much Space

Here’s what I’ve discovered over 34 days: When I get frustrated about things—whether at work, at home, or anywhere else—I don’t stay there very long if I say thank you or show appreciation for something.

It’s like there’s only so much space. And gratitude fills up more than anger does.

I had an opportunity to practice this today. There was a miscommunicated topic, and it would have been easy to get frustrated. I didn’t initially react properly. But then I apologized and tried to set the bar for myself higher by choosing a different path.

One of my new favorite things to say at work is: “We have fun jobs.”

One, because I do. But two, because if I look at it as something I get to do, it doesn’t stay something I have to do for very long.

That reframe changes everything.

Odd Things I’m Grateful For

So tonight, I’d like to tell you some odd things that I’m grateful for.

I’m Grateful That I’m Overweight

I know that sounds odd. But what it means is I have had plenty of food and plenty of downtime over the years—of which I should be thankful, because I’ve never missed a meal.

Have I needed to be better and do better with the meals I’ve had? Certainly. But I can say without a shadow of a doubt, I am grateful because I have never gone hungry.

I’m Grateful That I Have a Mess in My Office That Needs to Be Cleaned Up

Because it means I have a space of my own where I get to be creative, think through tough problems, and work on things that are important to me.

Sometimes these messes are just evidence that I’ve been in here trying my best to do something good.

I’ve heard the joke said before that a clean desk is the sign of a sick mind. Well, a messy desk in the reverse must be the sign of a brilliant mind. And I’m looking pretty brilliant right now—but I really need to work on that.

I’m Grateful for an Injured Wrist

Because it’s given me an opportunity to practice persevering when I really haven’t wanted to.

It would have been just as easy to pout, get frustrated, get upset. Let life overwhelm me and derail my goals. I just don’t want to do that.

So if this pain in my wrist or my hand has to serve as a reminder that I have things to do, and that sometimes getting things done means overcoming discomfort—no, all the time that’s what it means—then I’ll take it.

Everything Worth Doing Is Hard

I heard Gary Vaynerchuk say one day: “People get frustrated because things are hard.” And he said, “Everything worth doing in life is hard.”

I really have to agree with him.

It doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing. It just means that the good things are most likely going to be difficult. Because if they were easy, I’m not sure they would be the good things.

When We Position Ourselves with Gratitude

When we position ourselves with a grateful heart, when we position ourselves to be thankful, I really feel like we open ourselves up for so much more that can come to us.

We see things with much clearer eyes. We’re not fogged over. We can actually be pragmatic about what’s coming at us.

Take a good long look at where you are right now.

I bet there’s more in front of you to be thankful for than you realize.

Even on a brutal 10.5-hour workday. Even with a messy office. Even with an injured wrist. Even when you’re exhausted.

Gratitude fills more space than anger does.

And when gratitude is your default position, it’s really hard for the negative stuff to take root.

That’s Day 34.

Day 34: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed, even on a mentally taxing day.

Round 1 Progress: 34/40 days (85%)

Six more days until Round 1 is complete.

See you tomorrow for Day 35.

Was It Always This Simple? Day 33 and the Truth About Starting

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Day 33 of the 7-40 Challenge
Monday, February 2, 2026

Welcome to Day 33. I’m still here. Still going. And today, I accomplished all seven of my daily goals.

My hand is finally starting to feel better. My head’s in the right frame of mind. And I’m looking forward to getting after my goals even harder as we finish Round 1, move through Assessment Week (Feb 10-16), and charge into Round 2.

The Checkpoint

I started this year by writing out a goals list—a detailed vision for what I wanted 2026 to be. It’s not usually my forte, but I’ve been reviewing it regularly.

And right now? I’m actually on track.

The milestones I aimed for in Round 1? I’m hitting them:

  • 33 days of perfect execution on all seven habits
  • 8.5 pounds lost (already exceeded the lower target for Round 1)
  • Novel first revision complete (97 chapters, now with beta readers)
  • Daily blog posts (33 consecutive days of content)
  • Social media breakthrough (Day 23 – years of avoidance overcome)
  • Gratitude practice grounding the journey (weekly Thank You Campaign)

Coming up next: the second revision of my novel. My wife and son have been reading the first draft—it’s the first time I’ve ever written something like this and had people actually review it. I’m eager to get through it and keep going.

And as I mentioned yesterday, I’ve also started outlining a new novel (The Light Bearer) that’s been dormant in my head for five years. That’s got me excited too.

My daily habits are keeping my health and fitness on track. Overall? I’m thrilled with the progress.

The Question I Had to Ask

But here’s what I’ve been wondering: Was it really this easy all along?

Could I have just looked myself in the mirror years ago and said, “Alright, buddy, it’s time to achieve some goals. We’re going to sit down, write them out, and get after it”?

The hard truth? Yes. It really was this simple.

Easy? Heck no.

But simple? Absolutely.

Why We Don’t Start

I firmly believe we don’t achieve because we don’t risk. And we don’t risk because we’re afraid we’re going to fail.

It’s so much easier to stay where we are than to deal with failure.

But the hard truth is: everybody fails.

There’s a theory out there that if you’re willing to fail often and fail fast, you’ll find success faster than everyone else. I don’t know if that’s true or not.

But I do know this: If you put all your effort behind something you truly want to do, failure is not defeat. Failure is learning and growing along the path you’ve laid out for yourself.

Which is ultimately what we want to do.

What Writing Down Goals Actually Does

The thing I really appreciate about writing out a very detailed list at the beginning of the year is this: I get to tell myself what it is I want to do.

I get to be my own driver, pushing toward goals that I say are important to me.

And if I don’t work on them? I’ve essentially lied to myself.

So it behooves me to actually tell the truth. To set goals I actually want to accomplish. And I’m excited to say that so far, I’ve been able to do that.

I Don’t Want to Die with My Music Inside

I don’t want to die with my music still inside me. I don’t want to die one day with creativity that could have been something.

I don’t want to be sitting as an old man wondering “what if.”

I don’t want to look in the mirror one day and realize I no longer have the opportunity because I let it slip by.

I don’t want to have to tell my wife we can’t do something because I was unwilling to try.

I don’t want to tell my son he can’t achieve what he wants in his life because I couldn’t achieve it in mine.

I want to take every opportunity God has given me to do good and be good for this world. I want to set goals. I want to achieve them. And I want to make the most of the time I have.

Because God has been so good to me. He’s blessed me so richly.

And I can’t be anything but thankful. And in my thankfulness, it needs to spur me into action and good works.

Day 33: The Truth

So here’s what Day 33 taught me:

It was always this simple. Write down what you want. Show up every day. Do the work.

Not easy. But simple.

The best time to start was 20 years ago when I first started writing “someday I’ll…” notes.

The second best time? Day 1 of this challenge.

The third best time? Right now, wherever you are.

Start getting in the reps. Start working. Before you know it, there’s going to be so much done. You’re going to build so much momentum. You’re going to get so far.

And you won’t have to wonder “what if” anymore.

Day 33: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. Still on track. Still building.

Round 1 Progress: 33/40 days (82.5%)

Seven more days until Round 1 is complete.

See you tomorrow for Day 34.