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I Can Do More Than I Imagined: Day 35 and Discovering Your Capacity

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Day 35 of the 7-40 Challenge
Wednesday, February 4, 2026

One of the most interesting things about this round of the challenge is I’ve been able to think outside of the box more than in almost any time past.

I put lofty goals in front of myself: revising my book while working on physical fitness and getting social media going at the same time.

Here’s what I’m finding 35 days in: So much more is possible than I ever knew before.

I’m able to do more than I imagined. That’s delightful and frustrating all at the same time—because it means I’m making progress now, but it raises the question of all that time before.

But I’m not going there. Here’s what I’m learning instead.

The Evidence

This realization has been gradual. Ninety-seven chapters revised in less than a month. Daily blog posts by leveraging voice-to-text. The Light Bearer outlined after sitting dormant for five years.

I’ve never successfully finished a book before. I not only finished one over Christmas, but revised it and started planning the next one.

That’s making me feel like I can do far more than I imagined.

The Temptation

If I can do all this NOW, why didn’t I do it BEFORE?

It’s tempting to look back at twenty years of “someday I’ll…” notes and think about wasted time.

But I’m not going there. The most honest thing I can say is this: Until now, I was not prepared to do any of this.

I wanted to. I thought about it. But my desire for action was not there.

What Changed

It was finally time. I had my put up or shut up moment. And I don’t really like shutting up.

So I put up. Seven daily habits. Forty days. 2026 would be different.

And 35 days in, I’m discovering: Capacity expands when preparation meets the right tools at the right time.

Voice-to-text turns 10-minute rambles into drafts. AI creates 100+ Bible images with 30,000+ views. OpusClip distributes one video across platforms. The 7-40 structure removes decision fatigue.

Eighteen years in data management taught me systems. One hundred Toastmaster presentations taught me storytelling. Two cancer battles taught me not to waste time. Twenty-seven years of marriage taught me perseverance.

All of it together = discovering I can do far more than I imagined.

What This Means

If you’re thinking, “I wish I could do more,” here’s what I’ve learned: You probably can.

Not because you’ll gain superpowers. But because when you get clear on what you want, build the right structure, leverage your tools, and show up consistently—you discover capacity you didn’t know you had.

I didn’t know I could revise 97 chapters in a month. Write 35 consecutive blog posts. Plan a second novel before publishing the first. Generate 30,000+ views on Bible content. (More on this a different time.)

But I can. And I am.

Not because I’m special. Because I’m finally prepared, I have the right tools, and it’s finally time.

The Discovery

You can do more than you think. Once you’re ready.

You know you’re ready when you stop thinking about it and start doing it. When you have your put up or shut up moment. When you realize you don’t like shutting up.

That’s when capacity expands. That’s when you discover what’s actually possible.

Five more days until Round 1 is complete. And I’m just getting started.

Day 35: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. Discovering capacity in real time.

Round 1 Progress: 35/40 days (87.5%)

Five more days until Assessment Week.

See you tomorrow for Day 36.

Odd Things I’m Grateful For: Day 34 and the Space Gratitude Fills

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Day 34 of the 7-40 Challenge
Tuesday, February 3, 2026

I got to work at 6:00 AM this morning. I didn’t leave my office until 4:30 PM. I spent most of my day in meetings or working through data issues. It was mentally taxing.

But because of the program I have in place, I was able to get the things I needed to do done while also tackling all the unexpected things that came up.

It’s ingrained in my head now: I have things I need to accomplish every day. Even amidst the chaos of a busy workday, I track my calories. I drink my water. When I have an opportunity to get up and go for a walk, I do.

Just knowing I have things I need to accomplish every day—even in the chaos—is very beneficial.

I’m exhausted tonight. But Day 34 is complete.

Why Gratitude Is One of My Seven Daily Habits

Here’s the thought that’s been rolling around in my head today: Why do I focus so hard on gratitude as one of my seven daily habits?

What is it about practicing being and staying thankful that makes it an absolute must?

I don’t know about you, but I find that when I’m being thankful, it’s really hard to stay mad about anything. Whether it’s being cut off on the road, or somebody being rude to me at work, or just not getting done what I wanted to do—if I take a moment to take a deep breath and express gratitude for something in my life, I find that it’s really hard to stay angry.

It’s hard to let those negative emotions take over if gratitude is my natural position.

There’s Only So Much Space

Here’s what I’ve discovered over 34 days: When I get frustrated about things—whether at work, at home, or anywhere else—I don’t stay there very long if I say thank you or show appreciation for something.

It’s like there’s only so much space. And gratitude fills up more than anger does.

I had an opportunity to practice this today. There was a miscommunicated topic, and it would have been easy to get frustrated. I didn’t initially react properly. But then I apologized and tried to set the bar for myself higher by choosing a different path.

One of my new favorite things to say at work is: “We have fun jobs.”

One, because I do. But two, because if I look at it as something I get to do, it doesn’t stay something I have to do for very long.

That reframe changes everything.

Odd Things I’m Grateful For

So tonight, I’d like to tell you some odd things that I’m grateful for.

I’m Grateful That I’m Overweight

I know that sounds odd. But what it means is I have had plenty of food and plenty of downtime over the years—of which I should be thankful, because I’ve never missed a meal.

Have I needed to be better and do better with the meals I’ve had? Certainly. But I can say without a shadow of a doubt, I am grateful because I have never gone hungry.

I’m Grateful That I Have a Mess in My Office That Needs to Be Cleaned Up

Because it means I have a space of my own where I get to be creative, think through tough problems, and work on things that are important to me.

Sometimes these messes are just evidence that I’ve been in here trying my best to do something good.

I’ve heard the joke said before that a clean desk is the sign of a sick mind. Well, a messy desk in the reverse must be the sign of a brilliant mind. And I’m looking pretty brilliant right now—but I really need to work on that.

I’m Grateful for an Injured Wrist

Because it’s given me an opportunity to practice persevering when I really haven’t wanted to.

It would have been just as easy to pout, get frustrated, get upset. Let life overwhelm me and derail my goals. I just don’t want to do that.

So if this pain in my wrist or my hand has to serve as a reminder that I have things to do, and that sometimes getting things done means overcoming discomfort—no, all the time that’s what it means—then I’ll take it.

Everything Worth Doing Is Hard

I heard Gary Vaynerchuk say one day: “People get frustrated because things are hard.” And he said, “Everything worth doing in life is hard.”

I really have to agree with him.

It doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing. It just means that the good things are most likely going to be difficult. Because if they were easy, I’m not sure they would be the good things.

When We Position Ourselves with Gratitude

When we position ourselves with a grateful heart, when we position ourselves to be thankful, I really feel like we open ourselves up for so much more that can come to us.

We see things with much clearer eyes. We’re not fogged over. We can actually be pragmatic about what’s coming at us.

Take a good long look at where you are right now.

I bet there’s more in front of you to be thankful for than you realize.

Even on a brutal 10.5-hour workday. Even with a messy office. Even with an injured wrist. Even when you’re exhausted.

Gratitude fills more space than anger does.

And when gratitude is your default position, it’s really hard for the negative stuff to take root.

That’s Day 34.

Day 34: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed, even on a mentally taxing day.

Round 1 Progress: 34/40 days (85%)

Six more days until Round 1 is complete.

See you tomorrow for Day 35.

Was It Always This Simple? Day 33 and the Truth About Starting

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Day 33 of the 7-40 Challenge
Monday, February 2, 2026

Welcome to Day 33. I’m still here. Still going. And today, I accomplished all seven of my daily goals.

My hand is finally starting to feel better. My head’s in the right frame of mind. And I’m looking forward to getting after my goals even harder as we finish Round 1, move through Assessment Week (Feb 10-16), and charge into Round 2.

The Checkpoint

I started this year by writing out a goals list—a detailed vision for what I wanted 2026 to be. It’s not usually my forte, but I’ve been reviewing it regularly.

And right now? I’m actually on track.

The milestones I aimed for in Round 1? I’m hitting them:

  • 33 days of perfect execution on all seven habits
  • 8.5 pounds lost (already exceeded the lower target for Round 1)
  • Novel first revision complete (97 chapters, now with beta readers)
  • Daily blog posts (33 consecutive days of content)
  • Social media breakthrough (Day 23 – years of avoidance overcome)
  • Gratitude practice grounding the journey (weekly Thank You Campaign)

Coming up next: the second revision of my novel. My wife and son have been reading the first draft—it’s the first time I’ve ever written something like this and had people actually review it. I’m eager to get through it and keep going.

And as I mentioned yesterday, I’ve also started outlining a new novel (The Light Bearer) that’s been dormant in my head for five years. That’s got me excited too.

My daily habits are keeping my health and fitness on track. Overall? I’m thrilled with the progress.

The Question I Had to Ask

But here’s what I’ve been wondering: Was it really this easy all along?

Could I have just looked myself in the mirror years ago and said, “Alright, buddy, it’s time to achieve some goals. We’re going to sit down, write them out, and get after it”?

The hard truth? Yes. It really was this simple.

Easy? Heck no.

But simple? Absolutely.

Why We Don’t Start

I firmly believe we don’t achieve because we don’t risk. And we don’t risk because we’re afraid we’re going to fail.

It’s so much easier to stay where we are than to deal with failure.

But the hard truth is: everybody fails.

There’s a theory out there that if you’re willing to fail often and fail fast, you’ll find success faster than everyone else. I don’t know if that’s true or not.

But I do know this: If you put all your effort behind something you truly want to do, failure is not defeat. Failure is learning and growing along the path you’ve laid out for yourself.

Which is ultimately what we want to do.

What Writing Down Goals Actually Does

The thing I really appreciate about writing out a very detailed list at the beginning of the year is this: I get to tell myself what it is I want to do.

I get to be my own driver, pushing toward goals that I say are important to me.

And if I don’t work on them? I’ve essentially lied to myself.

So it behooves me to actually tell the truth. To set goals I actually want to accomplish. And I’m excited to say that so far, I’ve been able to do that.

I Don’t Want to Die with My Music Inside

I don’t want to die with my music still inside me. I don’t want to die one day with creativity that could have been something.

I don’t want to be sitting as an old man wondering “what if.”

I don’t want to look in the mirror one day and realize I no longer have the opportunity because I let it slip by.

I don’t want to have to tell my wife we can’t do something because I was unwilling to try.

I don’t want to tell my son he can’t achieve what he wants in his life because I couldn’t achieve it in mine.

I want to take every opportunity God has given me to do good and be good for this world. I want to set goals. I want to achieve them. And I want to make the most of the time I have.

Because God has been so good to me. He’s blessed me so richly.

And I can’t be anything but thankful. And in my thankfulness, it needs to spur me into action and good works.

Day 33: The Truth

So here’s what Day 33 taught me:

It was always this simple. Write down what you want. Show up every day. Do the work.

Not easy. But simple.

The best time to start was 20 years ago when I first started writing “someday I’ll…” notes.

The second best time? Day 1 of this challenge.

The third best time? Right now, wherever you are.

Start getting in the reps. Start working. Before you know it, there’s going to be so much done. You’re going to build so much momentum. You’re going to get so far.

And you won’t have to wonder “what if” anymore.

Day 33: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. Still on track. Still building.

Round 1 Progress: 33/40 days (82.5%)

Seven more days until Round 1 is complete.

See you tomorrow for Day 34.

The Art of Asking (for Feedback): What Amanda Palmer’s TED Talk Teaches Us About Preparation

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Day 30 of the 7-40 Challenge
Friday, January 30, 2026

“Put in the time. Your ideas are worth the effort.”

That’s Carmine Gallo in Talk Like TED, talking about the preparation that goes into great speeches. I’m on Day 30 of the 7-40 Challenge, reading Gallo’s book, and learning that what separates good ideas from great ones isn’t just having the idea—it’s being willing to test it.

But what does that actually look like in practice?

Let me show you what it looked like for Amanda Palmer.

The Tour Before the Tour

If you’ve watched Palmer’s TED talk “The Art of Asking,” you know how it feels—raw, authentic, like she’s having a conversation with 1,400 of her closest friends. She tells stories about being a living statue, about crowdfunding her album, about the vulnerability of asking. It doesn’t feel rehearsed. It feels real.

That’s exactly what great preparation is supposed to look like.

But here’s what you don’t see: the tour before the tour. Palmer didn’t just show up at TED and wing it. She took that talk on the road. Different venues. Different audiences. She gave variations of her prepared speech over and over, using each performance as a testing ground. Every time she delivered it, she was watching for what landed, what fell flat, where people leaned in, where they checked out.

And then—and this is the brilliant part—she used her community as her feedback engine. Palmer has spent years building genuine relationships with her fans, and she enlisted them in making this talk better. She asked them what worked. What didn’t. What confused them. What moved them. She treated her community not as passive consumers but as collaborators in refining her ideas.

This is the opposite of the lone genius model. This is preparation as conversation. Iteration as relationship. The speech got better because she let people help her make it better.

The Risk of Real Feedback

Think about what that actually means: Palmer valued her idea enough to test it. To expose it to feedback when it was still rough. To risk hearing that parts of it didn’t work.

Most people are so protective of their ideas that they either never share them at all, or they wait until they think it’s “perfect”—which usually means they’ve polished it in isolation until it’s lost all its rough, human edges.

Palmer did the opposite. She put her rough draft in front of real people and let them tell her the truth.

This applies to so much more than public speaking.

Writers do this with beta readers—trusted people who read your manuscript before it’s finished and tell you what’s working. Stand-up comics do this every single night in small clubs, working out new material in front of live audiences, adjusting based on what gets laughs. Software developers do this with user testing. Artists do this with gallery shows and studio visits.

The best work comes from feedback loops, not from isolated genius.

What This Looks Like for Me

Right now, I’m waiting for my wife and son to finish reading my novel manuscript before I dive back into revisions. I could have ignored their feedback and just polished it on my own. But my idea—this story I’ve spent so much time on—is worth the effort of getting real feedback from people I trust. Their insights will make it better than anything I could do alone.

And the 7-40 Challenge itself is a feedback loop. Every blog post I publish gets responses. Every video on social media gets views. I’m documenting my transformation in real-time, and feedback tells me what’s resonating and what’s not. I’m not waiting until Day 280 to share “perfect” results. I’m sharing the messy middle right now and letting the feedback help shape what this becomes.

That’s preparation as conversation. That’s using community as my feedback engine.

The Takeaway

Your community, your beta readers, your test audiences—they’re not a weakness in your process. They’re not a sign that you couldn’t figure it out on your own. They’re part of the preparation. They’re how good ideas become great ones.

So here’s what Day 30 taught me: If your idea is worth doing, it’s worth testing. Put it in front of people before you think it’s ready. Use your community as your feedback engine. Be willing to hear what’s not working. Iterate.

Put in the time. Your ideas are worth the effort.

And sometimes that effort looks like asking for help.

Day 30: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. Three-quarters through Round 1.

Round 1 Progress: 30/40 days (75%)

Assessment Week begins in 11 days.

See you tomorrow for Day 31.

The Rules That Make Excellence Possible: Day 27

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Day 27 of the 7-40 Challenge
Tuesday, January 27, 2026

I’m reading Carmine Gallo’s book Talk Like TED right now, and in Chapter 1, he asks a question that stopped me on my walk this morning:

“What makes your heart sing?”

The answer came immediately: Being a husband to to my bride. Being a father to my son.

That’s what makes my heart sing personally.

But then he asks another question: “What is your obsession? What are you passionate about?”

And that’s where things get interesting.

The Answer I Didn’t Expect

My obsession isn’t separate from what makes my heart sing. They’re connected.

I’m obsessed with becoming the best version of myself—not for followers, not for book sales, not for speaking fees—but because I can’t be the husband she deserves if I’m dragging.

I can’t be the father my son needs if I’m physically exhausted, mentally foggy, emotionally drained, or spiritually disconnected.

The better I become—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually—the more I can show up as the man they need. The more I can model the kind of intentional, loving marriage that’s lacking in so much of the world today.

And here’s the thing: I can’t fragment myself. I can’t be excellent at home and mediocre at work. I can’t be disciplined with my spiritual life and careless with my body.

Excellence has to run through everything, or it doesn’t run through anything.

What My Day Job Taught Me About Transformation

I’m a data professional. I’ve been doing this work for over 18 years.

And here’s what I know from my day job: There is process. There is order. There are rules.

Data management isn’t chaos. It’s systematic. Organized. Deliberate.

When you have clear rules—agreed-upon ways to do things—everyone knows how to play the game. Everyone knows what success looks like. Everyone has a shot at excellence.

If I don’t know the traffic laws, I’ll run into people.

If I don’t know the rules of football, I’ll tackle the wrong person and the other team will win.

If I don’t have clear habits, I’ll drift through life wondering why nothing ever changes.

Rules aren’t there to penalize us. Rules are there to help us play the game better.

And by knowing the rules and following the system—the workflow, the structure—we actually have an opportunity to be excellent.

The 7-40 Challenge: The Rules of My Game

So what are the rules I’ve set for myself?

I have to be spiritually healthy.
I have to be physically healthy.
I have to be mentally healthy.
I have to be emotionally healthy.

Because if I’m healthy in those four areas, I can do all the major things I need to do in my life: be a husband, be a father, be a good worker, be a good friend.

That’s why the seven habits aren’t random. They’re strategic:

  1. Bible Study & Prayer → Spiritual health
  2. Exercise (1 hour daily) → Physical health
  3. Calorie Tracking → Physical health
  4. Water (100oz daily) → Physical health
  5. Reading/Learning → Mental health
  6. Gratitude Practice → Emotional health
  7. Creative Work → Mental and emotional health

These aren’t restrictions. They’re the agreed-upon structure that makes excellence possible.

Just like the data governance frameworks I use at work, just like traffic laws, just like the rules of any game—the 7-40 Challenge works because it has rules.

And when you know the game, you can play it well.

How This Helps 1,000 People

Here’s why this matters for my mission to help 1,000 people:

I’m not trying to inspire anyone with motivational speeches. I’m not selling quick fixes or secret formulas.

I’m defining the rules of the game clearly so that anyone who wants to play can play.

Seven habits. Forty days. Analyze. Rinse. Repeat 7 times.

That’s it. That’s the game.

You don’t need to figure out your own system. You don’t need to guess what works. The rules are clear. I am proving the framework as I go.

And just like at my day job, when you define the process clearly, everyone else can follow it too.

That’s not restriction. That’s freedom.

Freedom to focus on execution instead of decision fatigue. Freedom to know exactly what “winning the day” looks like. Freedom to become excellent because the path is clear.

What Gallo’s Question Revealed

So when Carmine Gallo asked, “What makes your heart sing?” I thought the answer was simple: my family.

But what I realized on my walk this morning is that the 7-40 Challenge IS about my family.

It’s about becoming the man she deserves and the father my son needs.

It’s about not fragmenting myself—being one integrated person who brings the same commitment to excellence to every area of life.

And it’s about using the same process discipline that makes me excellent at data work to become even more excellent as a husband, father, and human. And vice versa.

The rules don’t limit me. They make excellence possible.

And if they work for me, they can work for you too.

Because the game has rules. And when you know the rules, you can win.

Day 27: Complete ✓

All seven habits executed. The rules are working.

Round 1 Progress: 27/40 days (67.5%)

See you tomorrow for Day 28.