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Day 22 of the 7-40 Challenge: Finding Gratitude in the Grind

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Hello, friends! Welcome to Day 22 of Round 2 of the 7-40 Challenge. Today’s post is inspired by a moment of clarity I stumbled upon during a workshop discussion about overcoming frustrations and unmet expectations. It’s a topic that hits home for so many of us, and I’m excited to share a perspective that not only lifted my spirits but might just spark something in you, too.

Life, as we know it, is a whirlwind of problem-solving, navigating tricky conversations, and tackling challenges that don’t always go as planned. Whether it’s a tough day at work or a moment where reality falls short of our expectations, frustration can creep in like an uninvited guest. As the great philosopher Plato once said, “We are twice armed if we fight with faith.” For me, that faith often takes the form of gratitude—a powerful weapon against the weight of disappointment.

Let me paint you a picture from my past. I once worked for an insurance claims firm, and to call it a “tumultuous” experience would be putting it mildly. The office was a haze of cigarette and cigar smoke—no rules against it in that privately run business. The air was thick, not just with smoke but with colorful language that was part of the daily grind. Days were filled with tense calls from clients demanding money, and I often felt like I was wading through a swamp of frustration. Lunch breaks with friends were my brief escape, like a prisoner tasting freedom for an hour. But even then, I carried the lingering smell of smoke, a reminder of the environment I was desperate to leave behind.

I knew I was meant for more, but in those moments, dejection had a tight grip. It took time—more than I’d like to admit—to break free and find my way. Looking back, I realize those frustrations were shaping me, driving me to be and do more than I ever had…even if I couldn’t see it then.

Fast forward to the workshop I attended today, where a simple exercise shifted my perspective. Picture this: in one hand, hold all your frustrations—the missed deadlines, the difficult coworkers, the moments when life feels like it’s falling short. In the other hand, hold everything you’re grateful for. For me, that’s a fulfilling job (even with its challenges), the freedom of living in the USA where I can chase my dreams, a loving wife and son, and a faith in Jesus that anchors me. As Helen Keller once said, “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Gratitude is that open door.

When I weigh both hands, something remarkable happens. The frustrations in one don’t seem so heavy when balanced against the gratitude in the other. It’s not about ignoring the hard stuff—it’s about choosing to see the good alongside it. Gratitude becomes a compass, guiding us through the fog of disappointment toward purpose and clarity.

Have you ever had a day where frustration threatened to derail you? Maybe you’re in a job that feels like a dead end, or perhaps life isn’t matching the vision you had in your head. I get it. But I challenge you to try this: hold your frustrations in one hand and your blessings in the other. Notice how the weight shifts. Let gratitude be your guide, pointing you toward the path you’re meant to walk, even when the road feels rough.

Here’s to finding balance, embracing gratitude, and letting it lead us through the grind. What’s in your hands today? I’d love to hear how gratitude has been your compass—share your thoughts, and let’s keep this journey going together.

Slow Down to See: Day 21 of the 7-40 Challenge

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Hey there, friends! Welcome to Day 21 of the second round of my 7-40 Challenge. What a day! I crushed a bunch of those “honeydoos” (you know, the to-do list that is a must!), and I’m feeling pretty darn good about it. But beyond checking boxes, I had some deep thoughts today, sparked by a line from Austin Kleon’s Keep Going. So, grab a drink, get comfy, and let’s unpack something that hit me like a ton of bricks.

I’m an audiobook junkie—always “reading” with my ears while I mow the lawn or tackle chores. Sometimes, though, a line stops me dead in my tracks, and I’ve gotta pause, rewind, and let it soak in. That happened today. While listening to Keep Going, Austin dropped this gem: “It’s impossible to pay proper attention to your life if you’re hurtling along at lightning speed. When your job is to see things other people don’t, you have to slow down so that you can actually look.”

I was out back, riding my mower, when those words made me slam on the brakes. I killed the engine, rewound, and played it again. It felt like the something was nudging me, saying, “Hey, you’re onto something here.” See, at my job (which I’ll keep vague for these posts), I deal with data. My role is to make sure the numbers we’re working with are rock-solid, so when we talk about them, we’re crystal clear and confident. Sounds straightforward, but it’s not. It takes time, persistence, collaboration, and a willingness to step back and think critically. My job is literally to spot what others miss—but I can’t do that if I’m racing through my day like it’s a speed trial.

This idea of slowing down isn’t just about work, though. It’s about life. We’re obsessed with speed these days. How fast can I finish this? How quick can I jump to the next thing? If I’m not moving at breakneck pace, am I falling behind? But here’s the thing—Henry David Thoreau once said, “It’s not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” That hits hard. Are we just busy for the sake of speed, or are we busy with purpose? Kleon’s words and Thoreau’s question got me thinking: if I’m hurtling along, I’m not really seeing anything—my work, my relationships, my creativity, my faith.

Picture this: years ago, my wife and I went rafting at the Royal Gorge. That river was life in a nutshell—sometimes calm and peaceful, sometimes a wild ride through rapids. (True story: I got tossed into a rapid called the Wall Slammer, surrounded by rebar-infested waters. Ask me about it over dinner sometime!) In my head, I imagine myself floating down this river on my stomach, head down, barely keeping up. Every now and then, I lift my head just long enough to glimpse my surroundings before plunging back into the current. Months, even years, can pass before I look up again. And when I do, it hits me: time’s flying. Life’s moving so fast, it’s a blur.

Have you ever felt like that? Like you’re just trying to keep your head above water? I know I have. And I bet you have too. So, what do we do? We slow down. We get intentional. We tune in—to the world, to the people we love, to our work, our creativity, and, for me, my relationship with God. Lao Tzu put it perfectly: “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” If nature can take its time and still get it done, why can’t we? Slowing down doesn’t mean falling behind—it means steering our own course.

Today, as I mowed and mulled over Kleon’s words, I realized I’m already doing some of this right. At work, when I take the time to dig into the data, to really see what’s there, I’m lifting my head out of the river. I’m checking my direction, making sure I’m headed where I want to go. I’m trying to do the same at home, with my family, my creative projects, my faith. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Because if we don’t slow down, we’re just floating along, letting the current drag us wherever it wants. We miss the moments that matter—the beauty, the connections, the purpose.

So, what about you? Are you floating with your head down, letting life pull you along? Or are you lifting your head, taking a good look around, and asking, “Is this where I want to be?”

Thanks for reading, friends. I pray you’re happy, healthy, and well. Let’s keep lifting our heads, slowing down, and steering toward where we truly want to go. See you tomorrow for Day 22 of the 7-40 Challenge!

Day 20 of the 7-40 Challenge: How We Spend Our Days is How We Spend Our Lives

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Hey there, friends! Welcome to Day 20 of my 7-40 Challenge. It’s been a whirlwind of a day around our house—life’s been keeping us on our toes—but the challenge marches on, and I’m thrilled to share that we’re making some solid progress. More than that, though, I’ve got some thoughts brewing from this morning’s reflections that I’m excited to dive into with you. First off, let me just say: thank you for being here, for reading these words. It means the world to me to have you along for this journey.

Lately, I’ve been diving deep into Austin Kleon’s work, and let me tell you, it’s been spot on. I tore through Steal Like an Artist and Show Your Work, and this morning, I cracked open Keep Going. These books are like a masterclass in creativity—packed with ideas on how to tap into your creative spark, nurture it, and actually get stuff done. They’re the kind of reads that make you want to grab a pen, start creating, and never stop.

But today, one particular gem stopped me in my tracks. In Keep Going, Kleon quotes Annie Dillard, who said, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” I had to put the book down for a minute just to let that sink in. It’s one of those truths that’s so simple yet so profound, it hits you like a ton of bricks. How we spend our days is how we spend our lives. Think about that for a second.

Sure, we all have those standout moments—the vacations, the big wins, the once-in-a-lifetime experiences that light up our lives. But those are the exceptions. Most of our lives are made up of the everyday, the routine, the habits we fall into. And those daily choices? They’re the building blocks of who we become.

Let’s paint a picture. Imagine waking up every day, grabbing an oversized breakfast, eating a bit too much, and heading out the door already frustrated with your family. You get to work, grumble about your tasks, half-heartedly engage with your team, and let the day slip by in a haze of complaints. Lunch rolls around, and you overdo it again. You’re late to meetings because, honestly, you’re just not that motivated. By evening, you’re rushing home, still carrying that frustration, maybe pouring a drink or two too many, and zoning out in front of the TV until it’s time to crash. Rinse and repeat.

You can see where this is going, right? If that’s your daily pattern, it’s not just a bad day—it’s a bad habit. Over time, those habits stack up, and suddenly you’re looking at a life where your health is shot from overeating and drinking, your relationships are strained because you haven’t prioritized the people you love, and your work is lackluster because you’ve settled for mediocrity. Years down the line, you might look back and realize you’ve missed opportunities, neglected relationships, and become someone you never wanted to be. All because of how you spent your days.

Now, let’s flip the script. Picture this instead: You wake up, lace up your shoes, and get some exercise in—fresh air filling your lungs. You spend a quiet moment reading your Bible, praying, or listening to something inspiring, like a good audiobook. Before you head out, you take a moment to tell your spouse how much they mean to you. At work, you dive into your tasks with focus, respect your teammates, and look for ways to add value. Maybe you even sneak in a walk at lunch, soaking in the gratitude for where you are and what you get to do.

When you get home, you’re excited to see your family. You pour into your kids—telling them you love them, that you’re proud of them, that you’re there to help them become who they’re meant to be. Dinner is a time to connect, to laugh, to enjoy each other’s company. After everyone’s asleep, you carve out a little time for yourself—reading, working on personal goals, or reflecting on the day. You hit the pillow feeling accomplished, knowing you gave it your all.

Can you imagine what weeks, months, or years of that routine would do? It’s not just a good day—it’s a good life. As Kleon puts it, “The trick is to find a way to make the days add up to something.” And I can tell you from experience, this kind of intentional living changes everything. There was a time when I dreaded going to work, when it was tempting to overeat or overdrink. Those days are long gone, and I’m overwhelmed with gratitude for the life I’ve been given. I want to make the most of every moment, every opportunity.

That’s why Dillard’s quote hit me so hard. It’s a wake-up call to choose wisely, every single day. To build habits that align with the person I want to be—someone who loves well, lives well, and inspires others to do the same. Another line from Kleon’s book stuck with me: “You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to show up and do the work.” It’s not about being flawless; it’s about showing up consistently and choosing the things that matter.

So, here’s my challenge to you: take a look at your days. What habits are you building? Are they leading you toward the life you want, or are they pulling you somewhere else? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this quote—“How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.” Drop a comment below and let’s keep this conversation going. What’s one small change you could make to your daily routine that might just change the trajectory of your life?

Thanks for joining me on Day 20 of the 7-40 Challenge. I’m pumped to see you back here tomorrow for Day 21. Let’s keep choosing the good stuff, the noble stuff, the stuff that makes God smile. Here’s to living with no regrets!

Transforming My Health: Tangible Results of Habits and Hope

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Here we are deep in round 2 of the 7-40 Challenge. Just 60 days ago I embarked on a challenge to build seven daily habits over 40 days, aiming to create momentum and check items off my ever-growing to-do list. If you’ve been following my journey, you know I’ve been focusing on the process—the small, intentional steps that lead to big changes. I haven’t talked much about my weight because, honestly, it’s not the full story. My goal isn’t just a number on the scale; it’s about feeling good, improving my cardiovascular health, and being there for my family in the long haul. As fitness icon Jack LaLanne once said, “Your health account is like your bank account: the more you put in, the more you can take out.” That’s the mindset I’m embracing—one deposit at a time.

Lead Measures vs. Lag Measures: The Game Plan

A while back, I read The Four Disciplines of Execution, and one concept stuck with me: the difference between lead measures and lag measures. Lead measures are the daily actions you control—like exercising for an hour or tracking your calories—that pave the way for long-term results. Lag measures, like weight loss or a lower BMI, are the outcomes that follow. Focusing only on the scale can be frustrating because it’s a lagging indicator. Instead, I’ve been pouring my energy into consistent habits, trusting they’ll lead to the bigger wins.

When I started this challenge, I weighed 299.5 pounds—heavier than I’ve ever been. My goals were broader than weight loss: I wanted a healthier body composition, better cardiovascular health, and overall well-being. Sure, a healthy BMI and a trimmer physique would be nice, but feeling vibrant and capable is my true goal. As author Jim Rohn put it, “Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” That’s the why behind my daily grind.

The Numbers Tell a Story

This morning, I stepped on the scale and saw 283 pounds—a 16-pound drop in about six weeks. That’s impressive, but I’ll be honest: part of me wanted the number to move faster. In the past, I’d get hung up on that frustration, unsure if my efforts were paying off. But this time, I have better tools to see the full picture.

My wife gifted me a Hume pod, a device that measures body composition, fat content, pulse, and more, paired with a Hume band that tracks O2 levels and sleep cycles. These tools have been game-changers, giving me data to understand what’s happening beneath the surface. When I started, my body fat was 31.6%, with 94.6 pounds of fat mass. Today? I’m at 24.6% body fat, with 69.8 pounds of fat mass. That’s a loss of 25 pounds of fat in just over a month and a half. Even more exciting, my lean mass has increased by nearly 10 pounds. The scale might say “16 pounds down,” but my body is transforming in ways I didn’t expect so quickly.

A Wake-Up Call and a Win

One metric hit me hard: the Hume pod calculates your metabolic age. My first reading pegged me at 54 years old—disturbing, considering I’m only 47. But today, my metabolic age is down to 39. In just 60 days, I’ve shaved 15 years off my metabolic age! That’s not just a number; it’s proof that the habits I’m building are working.

This journey has shown me that transformation isn’t about being perfect or hitting some arbitrary goal weight. It’s about showing up every day, making choices that align with the life you want, and trusting the process. Sixty days—nine weeks—have brought me further than I thought possible. I’m not where I want to be yet, but I’m so much closer than I was.

A Message of Hope

If you’re reading this and feeling like you’re too far gone, let me tell you: as long as you’re breathing, you have a chance to change your story. Every small choice—every workout, every healthy meal, every restful night—adds up. This journey has been a wake-up call and an encouragement to me, and I hope it inspires you too. Tomorrow marks round 2 day 20 of my challenge, and I’m excited to keep going, one habit at a time.

Thank you for joining me on this ride. Your support means the world, and I can’t wait to share more tomorrow.

Day 17 of the 7-40 Challenge: Showing My Work and Finding My Tribe

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Hey there, friends! Greetings, salutations, and a big ol’ what’s up? Welcome to Day 17 of my 7-40 Challenge, where I’m posting daily to share my journey, thoughts, and creative process. I hope this post finds you well, maybe sipping a cozy drink or winding down after a long day. Me? I’m tucked away in my little corner of the internet, plugging away at my goals, feeling a bit tired but ready to reflect with you.

Lately, I’ve been diving into Show Your Work by Austin Kleon, a compact yet power-packed book that’s got me thinking about creativity, transparency, and community. Kleon’s big idea? Don’t hide your creative process—share it generously. “You don’t have to be a genius,” he writes. “Find something you love to do, do it well, and share it with the world.” For Kleon, showing your work isn’t about bragging or giving away trade secrets; it’s about inviting people into your process, letting them see the magic behind what you create.

This idea hit me hard. Kleon argues that even if you share the nuts and bolts of how you do what you do, it’s unlikely someone will steal your thunder. Why? Because if you’re truly great at your craft, your unique spark can’t be replicated. Instead of creating copycats, sharing your process often wins you fans—people who are inspired by your authenticity and drawn to your story. As Kleon puts it, “The impulse to keep to yourself what you have learned is not only shameful, it is destructive. Anything you do not give freely and abundantly becomes lost to you.” That’s a game-changer, right?

One story from the book stuck with me: a barbecue pitmaster from Austin, Texas, who crowdfunded a YouTube series to share his Texas BBQ secrets. This guy didn’t gatekeep his recipes or techniques. Instead, he opened the door wide, showing exactly how he smoked his brisket to perfection. The result? In just a few years, his barbecue joint became one of the best in the country. Why? Because he was generous. By sharing his expertise, he didn’t just gain customers—he built a community of loyal fans who were invested in his story and eager to eat his food. His openness turned his work into something bigger than himself.

This got me reflecting on my own creative instincts. When I’m working on something—whether it’s writing, brainstorming, or tackling a goal—my first impulse is often to hold it close, to guard it like a precious secret. But why? What’s stopping me from inviting others into my process, letting them see the messy, beautiful reality of how I’m building my dreams? Kleon’s book challenges me to flip that script. Maybe creativity isn’t about locking things away—it’s about opening up, sharing the journey, and even inviting others to contribute ideas I might not have considered.

This 7-40 Challenge is my attempt to live that out. Posting daily on the internet is a weird, vulnerable thing. Part of me wants to keep my struggles, triumphs, and half-baked ideas to myself, worried they’re not “polished” enough to share. But then I think: Why not? Why hide the real stuff—the doubts, the wins, the messy middle? Sharing openly doesn’t just hold me accountable; it’s a chance to connect with others who might be wrestling with the same challenges or chasing similar dreams. I’m convinced that together, we’re better. Finding a tribe of like-minded people—folks who are headed in the same direction—can push us forward in ways we can’t do alone.

So here I am, showing my work, flaws and all. I want to be transparent about my struggles and how I’m overcoming them, hoping it might inspire someone else to keep going. I want to share the process of creating, not just the finished product, because that’s where the real magic happens. Whether you’re reading this from a bustling city or a quiet corner of the world, I hope you’re surrounded by a community that lifts you up. And if you’re not, maybe this is your invitation to start building one.

Thanks for joining me on Day 17. Drop a comment or share your own creative process—I’d love to hear how you’re showing your work. Here’s to Day 18, and to creating, sharing, and growing together. See you tomorrow!