Keep Getting Better: Day 8 of the 7-40 Challenge

Hello, friends. Welcome to Day 8 of Round 3 in the 7-40 Challenge. It’s a bright, sunshiny day—perfect for a lunchtime walk that’s lifting my mood and shifting my outlook on everything else in life.

I was just listening to See You at the Top by Zig Ziglar, and one line stopped me in my tracks. He said: “When we stop getting better, not long after, we will soon no longer be good at what we do.”

Let that sink in. When we stop getting better, we cease to be good.

I’ve been turning this over in my mind, applying it to a few corners of my own life to see if it holds water. Spoiler: it does.

In My Day Job

If I coast on what I know today—doing the job exactly as I do it now—I’ll earn a paycheck for a while. But technology doesn’t pause. Innovations will sprout up around me, and before long I’ll be out of step, unable to perform at the level I once did. The world changes; if I stay the same, I become obsolete.

As the industrialist Andrew Carnegie once observed, “The only irreplaceable capital an organization possesses is the knowledge and ability of its people. The more you develop that, the more valuable it becomes.” Resting on yesterday’s skills is a quiet way to watch your value erode.

In My Marriage

If I stop investing in my relationship—stop dating my wife, stop deepening the connection—our marriage risks becoming less than we dreamed. Frustrations creep in, fulfillment fades. Without continual improvement, what’s good today won’t stay good tomorrow.

As a Dad

I love my son fiercely. I want a strong relationship with him as he grows, and I want him to become a happy, healthy, well-adjusted man grounded in faith, hope, and a deep belief in God. That doesn’t happen on autopilot. I have to keep instructing, keep loving, keep teaching him how to navigate a world full of dangers, how to resist temptation, how to stand tall as a man in a culture that increasingly makes it hard.

If I stop improving as a father, what I have will cease to be good.

In My Health

That’s why I’m out here walking, why I’m carving out an hour to work out, why I’m pushing to return to optimal levels. I feel better, yes—but more importantly, I’m ensuring the day never comes when I’m no longer able to move, to play, to keep up.

The inventor Thomas Edison put it bluntly: “If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.” Improvement isn’t just a nice-to-have; it’s the only sustainable path.

The Bottom Line

Improvement isn’t optional. It’s the price of staying good at anything that matters. It demands change, growth, and occasional discomfort. But the alternative—stagnation—is far costlier.

I want to be more and do more than I am today.

I want to be more for my family.

I want to be more in my career.

I want to be more for everyone I influence.

I want to keep getting better.

Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing—thank you for reading these words. I appreciate you. I’m grateful for you. And I hope you, too, are striving to become the best version of yourself.

See you tomorrow for Day 9.

Embracing Extreme Ownership: A Journey of Personal Growth

Welcome back, friends! Today, I’m diving into my 7-40 Challenge—a personal quest to build seven daily habits over 40 days. We’re well into this journey, and despite my occasional confusion about what day it is (is it day 24 or 25? Day 24.), I’m making solid progress. One of my key habits is dedicating 30 minutes a day to reading or listening to a book, and let me tell you, it’s been a game-changer.

The Struggle with Paper Books

I’ll be honest: sitting down with a physical book is tough for me. It’s not that I don’t love a good story or crave knowledge—I do! I once devoured a James Patterson novel and a John Grisham thriller in a single weekend. But holding a book up to my face? It just doesn’t click. Over the years, I’ve realized I’m an auditory learner. Audiobooks let me process information faster and more effectively. Thanks to Audible, I’ve built an extensive collection of audiobooks, and I keep adding to it. They’re my go-to for soaking up stories and ideas while I’m on the move.

For this challenge, I started with Creative Calling by Chase Jarvis, which was inspiring, and dipped into Building a StoryBrand 2.0 by Donald Miller, but it didn’t feel like the right time for it. Then I picked up Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, and wow—this book is hitting all the right notes.

Why Extreme Ownership Resonates

Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win is a powerhouse of leadership principles drawn from the authors’ experiences as Navy SEALs in Iraq. Willink and Babin share gripping stories from the battlefield and translate those lessons into practical strategies for business and everyday life. As someone who deeply admires soldiers for their courage, discipline, and fitness, I’m captivated by their ability to take high-stakes lessons from war and apply them to leadership.

The core principle of the book—extreme ownership—has me reflecting hard on my own life. As Willink and Babin write, “On any team, in any organization, all responsibility for success and failure rests with the leader. The leader must own everything in his or her world. There is no one else to blame” (Extreme Ownership, p. 30). This idea challenges leaders to take full responsibility—not just for their own actions but for the outcomes of their entire team. It’s about setting a clear vision, communicating effectively, and guiding your people toward a shared purpose.

A Lesson from the Past

This concept of ownership hits home when I think about a job I had in the mid-2000s. I worked in an office that was, frankly, a tough environment. The owner smoked four to six cigars a day, and stepping into the office was like walking into a smoky bar. By the end of the day, I reeked so badly that my wife wouldn’t kiss me until I showered and ditched my clothes. Beyond the smoke, the workplace was dysfunctional. Expectations were unclear, communication was spotty, and I felt stuck, frustrated, and unnoticed despite my hard work.

While I was there, I blamed my boss, the environment, or the situation for my unhappiness. But reading Extreme Ownership made me realize I was complicit in my misery. I stayed in that job for three and a half years, comfortably miserable, without actively seeking other opportunities. It wasn’t until a friend offered to pass my resume to another company that I saw a way out. That experience taught me a hard truth: my choices, effort, and actions played a huge role in my happiness. I had to take ownership of my situation to change it.

Applying Extreme Ownership Today

It’s been 18 years since I left that smoke-filled office, and I now have a career I love, doing work that feels meaningful and fulfilling. But even now, it’s tempting to point fingers when things don’t go my way—to blame the company, circumstances, or others for my frustrations. Extreme Ownership reminds me that it’s on me to perform, to lead those around me, and to take responsibility for our collective goals. As Willink and Babin put it, “Implementing Extreme Ownership requires checking your ego and operating with a high degree of humility” (Extreme Ownership, p. 76). It’s about owning my decisions, from my work to my fitness to every area of my life.

This mindset shift is transformative. Instead of complaining or feeling stuck, I’m learning to look in the mirror and ask, “What can I do to move forward?” Whether it’s tackling a work challenge, improving my health, or leading my team, extreme ownership has to become a way of life.

Your Turn

I can’t recommend Extreme Ownership enough. It’s a fantastic read (or listen!) for anyone looking to step up as a leader in their work, relationships, or personal growth. But I’m curious—what books are you reading right now? What lessons are sticking with you? Drop a comment below—I’d love to hear your thoughts and keep the conversation going.

Until tomorrow, keep moving forward!

Reference:

Willink, J., & Babin, L. (2015). Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. St. Martin’s Press.

Day 16 of the 7-40 Challenge: Keep Going, Even When You’re Tired

Hey there, dream-chaser! Welcome to Day 16 of my 7-40 Challenge—a 40-day journey where I’m committing to seven daily habits to bring my goals to life. Today, I’ve got a confession: I’m exhausted. Bone-tired, ready-to-crawl-back-to-bed kind of tired. But here’s the thing—I’m not giving up. And neither should you. Let’s talk about pushing through, staying focused, and chasing our dreams, even when the going gets tough.

The Comfort Trap: A Familiar Foe

We’ve all been there. When life gets hard, when fatigue sets in, it’s so tempting to slip back into our comfort zones. For me, that used to mean diving under the covers, scrolling endlessly through social media, or reaching for a snack to numb the discomfort. I’ve spent parts of my life as a comfort seeker, dodging the hard stuff in favor of what feels easy. But here’s what I’ve learned: comfort is the enemy of progress. I want progress.

As the great philosopher Plato once said, “We are twice armed if we fight with faith.” Faith in ourselves, in our goals, and in the process—it’s what keeps us moving forward when every fiber of our being screams for rest. The old me would’ve given in to that scream. The new me? I’m choosing to show up, tired or not.

Doing It Tired, Doing It Hurting, Doing It Anyway

Part of building a daily habit set—like my 7-40 Challenge—is being unwavering. It’s about showing up for yourself, even when you’re not at your best. Today, I’m tired. My body’s aching, and my bed is calling my name. But I’m not listening. Why? Because I know that the tiredness will pass, but the regret of giving up won’t.

I’m committing to finishing my seven habits today—my workout, my water intake, my goals—before I let myself rest. And here’s the good news: I will get to rest. I’ll sleep soundly tonight, wake up tomorrow, and go after it again. The fatigue is temporary, but the progress? That’s is non negotiable.

A Lesson from the Past: The Power of Relentless Pursuit

Let me take you back to a moment that still inspires me. Thirty years ago, I was a high school junior with a dream: to make the All-State Choir. I’d tasted defeat the year before as a sophomore, and it stung. But that summer, I decided failure wasn’t an option. The choir clinic I needed to attend cost money—money I didn’t have. So, I got to work. I mowed lawns, hustled, and saved every penny until I could afford it. I practiced relentlessly, poured my heart into every note, and when tryouts came, I made it. I stood on that stage, a member of the All-State Choir, because I refused to let anything stand in my way. I have applied that o other pursuits over the years with similar outcome, but there have been times of the opposite. I have to focus on the good days and let them be my choice.

As Nelson Mandela once said, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” That’s the mindset I’m bringing to my 7-40 Challenge. In just 16 days, I’ve lost over 10 pounds by staying consistent—drinking my water, hitting my hour-long workouts, and keeping my eyes on the prize. I’m tired, sure, but I’m also stronger, healthier, and closer to my goals. The principle is the same now as it was back then: when you know what you want, you don’t let obstacles—whether it’s fatigue, doubt, or setbacks—stop you.

Your Turn: What’s Your Goal?

So, let me ask you: What’s your goal? What dream are you chasing? Are you showing up for it every day, even when it’s hard? Are you holding yourself accountable, or are you letting excuses creep in? I want to hear from you. If you’re crushing it, share your story—I could use the inspiration! If you’re struggling, let’s talk about it. Frustrations are part of the journey, but they don’t have to define it.

You, reading this right now, are part of my accountability. Knowing you’re out there, cheering me on, holds me accountable. I’m grateful for you—more than you know.

Keep Going, Keep Growing

Day 16 of the 7/40 Challenge is almost in the books, and I’m not done yet. I’ll finish my habits, push through the tiredness, and wake up tomorrow ready to tackle Day 17. The road to our dreams isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it. As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

So, let’s keep going—tired, hurting, or otherwise. Let’s chase our goals with everything we’ve got. Here’s to Day 16, to progress, and to the unstoppable spirit inside us all. I’ll see you tomorrow for Day 17. Keep shining!

What’s your goal? Drop it in the comments, share your wins, or let me know what’s holding you back. Let’s inspire each other!

Day 5 – 740 Challenge: What I Am Learning

How I’m Learning to Embrace My Creative Vibe

For most of my life, I thought creativity was a rare gift, a lightning bolt of inspiration that struck only the lucky few. I’d sit, waiting for that mythical lightning bolt to strike, convinced that’s how it worked. Spoiler: it never did.

I felt like I was chasing a mirage, my notebook empty, my ideas stuck in a fog of self-doubt. I would have times of breakthrough, but then retreat back to frustration. But lately, I’ve been reading Chase Jarvis’s Creative Calling, and it’s flipped my understanding of creativity upside down—in the best way.

Chapter 2, “Walk Your Path,” hit me especially hard with its call to embrace what makes you weird, to see your quirks not as flaws but as the fuel for creative fire. Jarvis’s words, paired with my own reflections, have helped me realize that creativity isn’t just painting or writing—it’s a way of seeing the world, solving problems, and daring to approach life from angles others might call unorthodox.

Here’s how I’m learning to live with a more creative outlook, even if it doesn’t look like the traditional artist mold.

Creativity Isn’t Magic—It’s Practice and Perspective

Jarvis argues that creativity thrives when you stop conforming and start amplifying what makes you unique. He quotes designer James Victore: “The things that made you weird as a kid make you great today.” That line really made me think. As a kid, I’d spend hours changing the lyrics to songs or singing my own songs I made up. You could call it daydreaming; I called it my world. But somewhere along the way, I let the pressure to be normal dull that spark.

I thought creativity meant producing a masterpiece, not solving a problem or seeing something differently. Jarvis, though, insists that creativity is a muscle you build through consistent practice, not a one-off miracle. This resonated with me because I spent years believing inspiration was supposed to strike like lightning. It didn’t. Instead, I’ve learned that creativity comes from showing up—whether it’s doodling without judgment, writing messy first drafts, or even singing at random to spark a new idea.

My aha moment? Creativity is about action, not perfection. It’s the act of sitting down, trying, failing, and trying again. Jarvis’s emphasis on daily practice—small, bold steps—reemphasizes the need to stop waiting and start doing, even if my efforts feel weird compared to what’s expected.

Seeing the World Sideways

What’s really shifted for me is how I define creativity. I used to think it was about singing, writing, or acting—things I’m not particularly skilled at. But now, I see it as a way of approaching life itself. Creativity is problem-solving with a twist, looking at the world through a lens that’s uniquely mine. Like Jarvis suggests, it’s about refusing to follow the safe path and instead forging one that feels alive. For me, this means noticing patterns others overlook—like listening for what’s really going on in conversations or helping people who are frustrated see a different view.

Over the years, there have been plenty of opportunities for this at work. We were stuck on a project, everyone recycling the same tired solutions. Someone suggested an approach that felt a bit out-there, inspired by how solutions worked outside our industry or department. We listened. We tried it. It wasn’t conventional, but it worked. In every facet of life, creativity isn’t just art; it’s seeing the possible and the impossible, then finding a way to make it real. Jarvis talks about this too—how your unique perspective, the one others might call odd, is what sets your work apart in a world full of sameness.

Embracing the Unorthodox

Jarvis’s call to walk your path reminds me that creativity flourishes when you lean into what makes you different. For me, that’s meant revisiting those weird parts of myself I used to hide. I love combining things that don’t seem to belong together—mixing character voices with work meetings or finding inspiration by taking different roads to work to explore new paths. These aren’t traditional creative outlets, but they excite me, and that’s what matters.

Jarvis writes about the importance of pursuing what sets your soul on fire, even if it looks risky or unconventional to others. That’s a permission slip to stop worrying about doing creativity “right” and instead focus on what feels authentic. I’m also learning that creativity is about vulnerability. Sharing my half-baked ideas or quirky projects feels scary, but Jarvis emphasizes that putting your work out there—imperfect as it is—builds the courage to keep going.

So, I’ve started small: posting these thoughts on my blog or sharing goodies I’ve baked with people at work. The response? Sometimes crickets, sometimes applause, but always a step toward owning my creative vibe.

Living the Creative Vibe

My biggest takeaway from Jarvis—and from my own journey—is that creativity isn’t a destination; it’s a way of being. It’s not about producing a gallery-worthy painting or a viral video (though those are cool). It’s about seeing the world sideways, solving problems with fresh eyes, and arranging ideas in ways that excite you.

Whether I’m tinkering with a new recipe, reframing a work challenge, or just singing a song of my own design, I’m leaning into seeing from my unique perspective. If you’re like me, maybe you’ve spent too long waiting for permission to be creative. Stop waiting. As Jarvis says, your path is yours alone—walk it, quirks and all. For me, that means embracing the unorthodox, practicing daily, and letting go of the myth that creativity is some magical gift. It’s work, it’s play, it’s problem-solving, and it’s mine.

What’s your creative vibe? How do you see the world differently? Let’s stop hiding our weird and start creating—because that’s where the magic really lives.