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The Power of Play: A Day at the State Fair and a Lesson in Living Freely

~ David Willis ~ Leave a comment

Hey there, friends! Welcome to day five of round two of the 7-40 Challenge. Buckle up, because today was an absolute riot of fun. My family and I hit the state fair, and let me tell you, it was a glorious whirlwind of sights, sounds, and pure joy. From the gleaming cars in the automobile pavilion to the endless sea of hot tubs (who knew there was such a demand?), to the irresistible fair food and the electrifying chaos of the Midway—complete with a wild round of bumper cars—it was a day bursting with laughter and memories. I had a blast, and it tied perfectly into today’s reflection from Chase Jarvis’ book, Never Play It Safe. Specifically, his fifth level: Play.

This chapter hit me right in the heart. Jarvis nails something we often overlook: as we grow up, we forget how to play. We get buried under deadlines, responsibilities, and the pressure to perform, and we lose that carefree spark of creativity that comes so naturally to kids. The world might call play silly or a waste of time, but Jarvis argues it’s woven into our very being. It’s not just fun—it’s essential. As the philosopher Plato said in the 4th century BC, “We are twice armed if we fight with faith and play.” Play isn’t a distraction; it’s a cornerstone of a vibrant, balanced life.

Jarvis shares a story that really stuck with me. He describes a guy (whose name escapes me) who was crushing it at an internship, pouring his heart and soul into proving himself. He nailed every detail, worked himself to exhaustion, and eventually landed a full-time job at the company. Sounds like a success story, right? Not so fast. The relentless grind turned him into a workaholic. His personal life faded away, his sleep was a disaster, his eating habits were worse, and he was on the brink of a nervous breakdown. Diagnosed with anxiety, he quit his job, started medication, and hit a low point. That’s when a friend recommended a book about the power of play.

Desperate for a change, this guy took on a 30-day challenge to bring play back into his life. He went for walks, played sports, grabbed a baseball bat and a bag of balls, and spent time at the park with a friend, just hitting balls and letting loose. Day after day, he made time for play. And after 30 days? The results were staggering. His anxiety had vanished. He was off the medication. He was, in his own words, “just OK.” Jarvis drives home the point: play is as restorative as sleep. It frees our minds, reignites our creativity, and recharges us in ways that endless hustling never can. As the poet Robert Louis Stevenson wrote in 1885, “In play, we find the freedom to be our true selves, unburdened by the weight of the world.” When we play, we give our brains room to breathe, to dream, to create.

So, how does this connect to my day at the state fair? It’s like the fair was a living example of Jarvis’ point. My family and I dove headfirst into the experience—stuffing our faces with gloriously weird fair food (deep-fried cheesecake, anyone?), cackling like kids in the bumper cars, and maybe buying a few things we definitely didn’t need. We walked over five miles (my feet are still complaining), but every step was worth it. It was a day of pure, unscripted joy. We played. We laughed. We soaked in each other’s company. And you know what? My soul feels light. I’m tired, sure, but I’m recharged. My brain’s ready to tackle whatever’s next, all because I gave it a chance to just be.

So, wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, I’m challenging you to carve out a little time for play. Take a deep breath, go for a walk, toss a Frisbee, or blast your favorite song and dance like nobody’s watching. It’s not frivolous—it’s vital. Play might just be the secret to keeping your soul light and your mind free. Here’s to day six, friends—let’s keep the good vibes rolling!

What’s your favorite way to play and recharge? Drop a comment and let me know!

Day 3 of the 7-40 Challenge: Round 2 – Pressing On Through Turmoil

~ David Willis ~ Leave a comment

Welcome to day three of round two of the 7-40 Challenge. Today has been exhausting—a true test of endurance. Yet, despite the fatigue, I’m staying focused on my goals, holding myself accountable to the path I’ve set.

My heart is heavy today, burdened by the turmoil unfolding in the national news. I won’t dive into specifics here, but if you’ve seen the headlines, you can likely sense the source of my sadness. My thoughts and prayers are with the family and their tragic loss.

A thought on goals

Working toward these goals isn’t always a joyride—I’ll be honest about that. Some tasks are deeply rewarding, while others feel like a slog. Still, they’re worth the effort. One goal I carried from round one into this round is reading for at least 30 minutes daily. So far, I’ve finished three books: two I’d read before and one that was new to me. I’m now on my fourth, Never Play It Safe by Chase Jarvis. I’m familiar with Jarvis’s work, but I wasn’t sure what to expect from this book when I started listening to it (audiobooks help me fit reading into my busy days).

I’m drawn to motivational content—books that inspire me to grow, act, and push beyond my current limits, whether for this challenge or life in general. In Never Play It Safe, Jarvis outlines seven tenets for living with purpose: taking risks, avoiding the trap of playing it safe, and achieving what you’ve set out to do. So far, though I am only through three of the chapters, it’s been a compelling read, though I’ve found myself wrestling with some of his ideas.

This brings me to tonight’s reflection: we don’t have to agree with everything an author says to find value in their work. It’s possible to glean powerful insights—nuggets of truth that resonate—while setting aside what doesn’t align with our perspective or values. I’m experiencing this with Jarvis’s book right now.

In his first chapter, “Attention,” I’m fully on board. Jarvis emphasizes the importance of giving laser-focused attention to the tasks at hand. Setting aside distractions to pursue your goals with intensity is critical, and I’m applying this principle daily.

The second chapter, “Time,” was thought-provoking but trickier for me to grasp. Jarvis suggests that time isn’t just a fleeting resource; it can be manipulated or even expanded. As someone who views time as finite, I initially struggled with this concept. But I believe he’s driving at how focused attention (from the first chapter) alters our perception of time, making it feel like it stretches or contracts based on our immersion. My takeaway? Deep focus helps us maximize the time we have, turning hours into productive breakthroughs.

It’s the third chapter, “Intuition,” where I’m hitting some cognitive dissonance. Jarvis argues that sometimes, despite advice from others pushing us toward a certain path, we know deep down it’s not right. He suggests intuition can guide us in these moments. I’d counter that unless you have significant experience in a given area, what feels like intuition might just be confusion or bias. In such cases, seeking wise counsel is essential. As Proverbs 15:22 says, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed” (ESV).

As a Christian, my perspective on guidance is rooted in my faith. I believe God is actively involved in my life because I’ve accepted Jesus as my Savior. Through the Holy Spirit, sent as a guide, and through my relationship with God—built on Bible study and prayer—I receive guidance toward the right path when I’m still, seeking, and grounded in Scripture. Proverbs 11:14 reinforces this: “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety” (ESV). For me, intuition isn’t some mystical inner voice; it’s either divine guidance or wisdom gained from experience.

Relying solely on gut feelings without self-awareness or authenticity can be misleading. As Francis Bacon wrote in his Essays (1625), “Read not to contradict and confute; nor to believe and take for granted… but to weigh and consider.” This applies to intuition, too: we must test our instincts against experience, counsel, and truth.

I know not everyone shares my spiritual or philosophical views, and that’s okay. I can only speak from my own experience and testimony: God has made Himself real to me, and I trust He’ll lead me when I seek Him. So, for me, what Jarvis calls intuition is better described as divine guidance or hard-earned experience.

What do you think? When you read a book, do you accept it all at face value, or do you sift through the ideas, keeping what resonates and setting aside the rest? How do you approach intuition or guidance in your life? Share your thoughts in the comments—I’d love to hear your perspective.

Onward to day four!

What Happens When You Force Your Brain to Sit Still for 5 Minutes? Spoiler: Chaos Ensues

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Hey there, fellow overthinkers and perpetual doers. If you’re anything like me, the idea of “doing nothing” for even a few minutes sounds like a cruel joke. But that’s exactly what I stumbled into while diving into Suleika Jaouad’s The Book of Alchemy. This gem of a book packs 100 daily essays and prompts designed to spark creativity, and today’s entry—titled “Be Slow” and penned by Rachel Schwartzmann—hit me right in my productivity-obsessed soul.

The prompt? Simple: Take 5 minutes to do absolutely nothing. Then, jot down what you experienced, thought, or realized. Sounds zen, right? Call me a skeptic, but I didn’t buy it. How much could really happen in 300 seconds of stillness? My brain’s a hamster wheel on steroids—always spinning with to-dos, random lyrics, and half-forgotten memories. So, this morning, I decided to test it. I plopped down at my desk, set a timer, and committed to writing down every single thought that popped up. No filtering, no judging. Just pure, unadulterated stream of consciousness.

To say it was “active” would be the understatement of the year. Welcome to the wild ride inside my head…

The Raw Dump: My 5-Minute Brain Explosion

Here’s the list, exactly as I scribbled it down in real-time:

•  Costco

•  Chiropractor

•  Anxiety

•  Fan

•  Laughing

•  Office

•  Track Food

•  Three Doors Down – You Love Me But You Don’t Know Who I Am

•  What a croc!

•  Rocky V

•  Three Men and a Little Lady

I know, I know. If you’re reading this and thinking (in the immortal words of Buzz Lightyear), “Wow. You are a sad, strange little man, and you have my pity,” you’re not alone. At first glance, it looks like the ramblings of someone who hit their head on the way to the coffee maker. But stick with me—this chaotic jumble turned out to be surprisingly revealing.

Decoding the Madness: What It All Meant

Sitting still was harder than I expected. My brain rebelled like a toddler in a candy store, constantly yanking me toward tasks or distractions. I had to keep reeling myself back in, refocusing on the quiet. Here’s the breakdown of what each thought actually represented, in the context of my mental whirlwind:

•  Costco and Chiropractor: Boom—errands mode activated. These are both on my afternoon agenda. I need to confirm my chiropractor appointment (calling when they open later), and Costco? Well, who doesn’t need bulk toilet paper? These popped up first, totally unrelated to the exercise, but classic examples of my brain’s “get stuff done” autopilot.

•  Anxiety: Less than a minute in, and there it was—a subtle nudge of unease. I’m wired for action; stillness feels like slacking off. I get anxious when I’m not “productive,” even though I know deep down I could use more of this downtime. It’s a reminder that my natural bend toward hustle isn’t always a virtue.

•  Fan: Finally, a moment of presence. I tuned into the sounds around me—the gentle hum of my Amacool desk fan, the cool breeze keeping me comfy. It sparked a wave of gratitude for my wife, who gifted it to me. She’s a wizard at taking care of the little things that make life smoother. In that quiet, I appreciated how these everyday comforts ground me.

•  Laughing and Office: These tied into the sensory stuff. The “laughing” was me chuckling at how ridiculous this all felt, and “office” was just acknowledging my surroundings—the desk, the hum, the familiarity. A brief nod to the here and now before my mind wandered again.

•  Track Food: Panic strikes again! I remembered I hadn’t logged my morning calories in MyFitnessPal yet. Another to-do item crashing the party, like those little emotions in Disney’s Inside Out fighting for control. Joy? Anger? More like Taskmaster Fear taking the wheel.

•  Three Doors Down – You Love Me But You Don’t Know Who I Am: Right on cue for the Inside Out vibe, this earworm hit. (It’s actually “Let Me Go,” but close enough—my brain’s not great with titles under pressure.) Why this song? No clue. It’s catchy, I love the band, and apparently, my mental DJ thought it was the perfect soundtrack for attempted zen. I could picture the little red Anger character from the movie fuming as the tune looped endlessly.

•  What a croc!: A random outburst of disbelief—or just a random line that came to mind which led me to the face of a little girl in a movie which led me to Tom Selleck which led me to the next thing in the list which is where I first heard the phrase What a croc.

•  Rocky V and Three Men and a Little Lady: And just like that, time travel. Suddenly, I’m back in late November 1990, 12 years old, begging my mom to drop me at the movies. I watched Rocky V (which, oddly, I didn’t even like the previous Rockies that much), then snuck out, bought another ticket, and caught Three Men and a Little Lady. I’d seen the first one, but really? At 12, alone? The real mystery: Why did my parents greenlight this solo adventure? Pre-teen me was living on the edge, apparently.

All of that—in just 5 minutes. From errands to existential gratitude, from Disney analogies to ‘90s movie marathons. It’s a snapshot of my daily mental gymnastics: turning mundane tasks into epic detours through time and emotion.

The Takeaway: Why You Should Try This (Even If It Sounds Nuts)

This little experiment was eye-opening. I had no idea so much was bubbling under the surface in such a short time. It highlighted how my brain defaults to productivity, distraction, and nostalgia—anything to avoid true stillness. But forcing the pause? It brought clarity, gratitude, and even a laugh at the absurdity of it all.

If you’re a skeptic like me, give it a shot. Grab a timer, sit down, and let your thoughts flow unchecked. You might uncover errands you forgot, songs you love, or childhood memories you didn’t know were lurking. In a world that glorifies hustle, “Be Slow” is a radical act of self-care. Who knows? Your 5 minutes could be the most productive non-productive time you’ve had all week.

What about you? Have you tried something like this? Drop your stream-of-consciousness stories in the comments—I’d love to hear how your brain rebels (or relaxes). And if you’re intrigued by the book, The Book of Alchemy is a good one. Slow down, tune in, and see what magic unfolds.

Day 34 of the 7-40 Challenge: Making Every Moment Count with Family

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Hello, friends! Welcome to Day 34 of my 7-40 Challenge journey. Today is Saturday, August 30, 2025, and I’m buzzing with gratitude for another day filled with purpose, progress, and the people who make my heart sing—my family.

The 7-40 Challenge is all about building seven meaningful habits over 40 days, and today was a beautiful reminder that success isn’t just about checking boxes—it’s about weaving those goals into a life well-lived. Today wasn’t just about hitting my targets (though I’m thrilled to say I did!); it was about soaking up the joy of being with my two favorite people, exploring the world together, and making memories that light up even the most ordinary moments.

Saturdays have a special kind of magic, don’t they? For us, it’s a day to pile into the car and set off on an adventure. Sometimes it’s trying a new restaurant, wandering through quirky thrift stores, or hunting for treasures at estate sales. Other times, it’s just driving around, noticing how the world around us has changed, and letting the road lead us wherever it wants. There’s something so freeing about being behind the wheel, my family by my side, with no agenda other than to be together. It’s these moments—laughing, exploring, just being—that turn an average day into something extraordinary.

Family time is sacred to me. Over the years, I’ve learned that it’s one of those irreplaceable things you can’t afford to put off. Sure, life gets busy—work, responsibilities, and all the “stuff” can creep in—but I’ve made it a priority to carve out space for the people I love most. Today was a perfect example of why that matters. We laughed, we explored, we connected, and it filled my soul in a way nothing else can.

As I reflect on today, I want to share three simple ways to make the most of your time with loved ones, whether it’s your family, friends, or chosen tribe:

1. Do Something You All Love
For us, it’s the thrill of discovery. Estate sales are like stepping into a wonderland of the unexpected. You never know what you’ll find—a vintage record, a quirky knickknack, or a glimpse into someone else’s life. It’s not just about the stuff; it’s about the stories behind it, the uniqueness of each find, and the joy of sharing that adventure together. Find that thing you all love—whether it’s hiking, cooking, or binge-watching a favorite show—and make it a ritual.

2. Get Everyone Involved
Today, we cranked up the car radio and took turns picking songs, from Pat Benatar’s fiery anthems to Creed’s soulful rock to Chris Daughtry and everything in between. We were singing, harmonizing, and smiling the whole way. It wasn’t just background noise—it was a shared experience that made us feel connected. Whatever you’re doing, make sure everyone has a voice, a role, a chance to shine. It’s those little moments of collaboration that make the day unforgettable.

3. Don’t Wait Too Long to Eat
Okay, this one’s practical but so important. Shopping or exploring on an empty stomach? Recipe for disaster. We learned that the hard way today, but a quick stop for a sandwich saved the day. Keep the hangry vibes at bay, and you’ll all have a better time.

As I wrap up Day 34, I’m filled with gratitude. I hit my goals for the 7-40 Challenge, but more than that, I got to live a day rich with love, laughter, and connection. I hope you’re having an amazing weekend, chasing your dreams and spending time with the people who matter most to you. Here’s to making every moment count—and to seeing you on Day 35!

Day 31 of the 7-40 Challenge: When Life Reminds You What Matters Most

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Hey there, friends! Welcome to Day 31 of my 7-40 Challenge, where I’m sharing the ups, downs, and unexpected detours of this journey. Some days, everything clicks like clockwork. You breeze through your to-do list, check off your goals, and feel like you’re absolutely crushing it. Everything works just as you planned, no surprises, no hiccups. And then, there are other days—days when life throws you a curveball, and you realize some priorities outshine even the most well-intentioned plans.

Today was one of those days. I was powering through my seven daily habits, ticking them off one by one. I was on a roll—until I didn’t quite make it to my exercise goal. But let me tell you, the reason why is one I wouldn’t trade for anything.

We had company over tonight, which already shook up the routine a bit. But before they arrived, my son looked at me with a genuine smile and asked, “Dad, do you think we could spend some time tonight and maybe shoot around a golf game on the Nintendo Switch?” Y’all, I love my goals. I love my habits and the structure they bring to my life. But there was no way I was going to say no to that.

Sometimes, the most important goals—the ones that truly matter—take precedence over everything else. So, what did we do? We cranked up some music, fired up the Nintendo Switch, and played 18 holes of Mario Golf. And let me tell you, it was a blast. We laughed, we competed, and we made memories that I’ll carry with me forever.

Here’s the thing: I set goals and build habits so I can be my best self—fit, present, and ready for the people who mean the most to me. My family is my why. They’re the heartbeat of everything I do, second only to my relationship with God. When they call, when they need me, or when they just want to hang out and play some virtual golf, you better believe I’m choosing them over any checklist.

I feel so incredibly blessed to have these relationships in my life. My family is my treasure, and moments like tonight are the ones I cherish most. It’s a reminder that life isn’t just about checking boxes—it’s about showing up for the people you love.

So, how about you? Have you carved out time today for the ones who light up your world? Have you laughed, connected, or done something just for the joy of it? I hope so, because those are the moments that make life truly rich.

Drop a comment below and let me know how you’re spending time with the people you love. I’d love to hear about it! Thanks for joining me on Day 31 of the 7-40 Challenge. I’m grateful for you all, and I’ll see you tomorrow for Day 32!