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The Joy of Words: Sounding Smart versus Being Smart

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You ever find yourself geeking out over something most people overlook? Yeah, I’m one of those guys. The kind who flips through a dictionary for fun, marveling at the sheer arsenal of words we have to express ourselves. It’s wild to think about, isn’t it? We’ve got this vast, vibrant toolbox of language at our fingertips, yet sometimes, we still trip over our own tongues. Or maybe that’s just me.

Let me take you back to my teenage years. While some kids were out perfecting their jump shot or cruising around in shiny cars to look cool, I had a different mission: I wanted to sound smart. My weapon of choice? Big, fancy words. The bigger, the better. Problem was, I didn’t always know what those words meant. Spoiler alert: trying to sound clever often made me look like a total goof.

Picture this: I’m 16, strolling into the Christian bookstore in my small town. The place had this cozy vibe—rows of books, soft music, and the owner, a friendly guy from my church, behind the counter. He asks me how my day’s going, and I, in all my teenage wisdom, respond with a confident, “Very monogamous.” Cue the owner bursting into laughter. For a split second, I consider being offended. What’s so funny? I ask. He catches his breath and says, “Do you mean monotonous?”

Oh. Yeah. That’s exactly what I meant. I had the right idea—my day was dull, same-old, same-old—but the wrong word. Monogamous? That’s a whole different ballgame. I slunk out of the store that day, my ego a little bruised but my curiosity about words fully ignited.

That moment stuck with me, not just because it was embarrassing (though, trust me, it was), but because it was the beginning of a life long enjoyment of language. These days, I’m still all about using a wide vocabulary, but it’s not about looking cool anymore. It’s about the sheer joy of words—their nuances, their histories, their power. Words can lift us up, tear us down, inspire us to dream, or motivate us to act. As the poet William Wordsworth once wrote, “Words are too awful an instrument for good and evil to be trifled with: they hold above all other external powers a dominion over thoughts.” He’s right—words aren’t just sounds or symbols; they shape how we think and connect.

Think about it: words are like tiny time machines, carrying meaning across centuries. They can paint vivid pictures, spark revolutions, or make someone’s day just by being kind. But they can also trip us up, like my “monogamous” mishap. And honestly? That’s part of the fun. Those missteps teach us to slow down, to listen, to learn. They remind us that language is a living, breathing thing—always evolving, always surprising.

I’m reminded of another gem, this time from Mark Twain: “The difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter—’tis the difference between the lightning-bug and the lightning.” That’s the magic of words. The right one can light up a conversation, while the almost right one? Well, it might just leave you blushing in a bookstore.

So here I am, still nerding out over dictionaries, still chasing the perfect word to capture a moment or a feeling. I’ve learned to laugh at my linguistic fumbles and to savor the moments when I nail it. Because at the end of the day, words aren’t just about sounding smart—they’re about connecting, creating, and celebrating the wild, wonderful mess of being human.

What’s your favorite word? Or better yet, what’s the most epic word-fail you’ve ever had? Drop it in the comments—I’d love to hear your stories. Let’s keep the conversation going and geek out over this beautiful thing called language together.

The Power of Talking It Out: Unlocking Better Communication Through Self-Discovery

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“Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” — Rudyard Kipling

For the longest time, I thought everyone’s brain worked like mine. I assumed we all processed ideas in the same tidy, linear way. Spoiler alert: I was wrong. It took a few verbal stumbles—moments where my words tripped over themselves—to realize I’m wired a bit differently. When I’m grappling with a complex idea or trying to solve a problem, I need to talk it out. Saying things aloud is like untangling a knotted ball of yarn in my mind—it helps me make sense of the chaos and find clarity.

This process can be a wild ride. Sometimes, I’ll be mid-sentence and hear myself say something that makes me pause and think, “Whoa, that’s not what I meant at all—where did that come from?” Other times, I’ll blurt out a thought and stop, amazed, thinking, “Wait, did I just say that? That was actually kind of brilliant!” Talking out loud is like holding up a mirror to my thoughts, revealing what’s really going on in my head—for better or worse.

I owe this epiphany to my incredible wife. Over the years, we’ve had countless conversations where I’d dive headfirst into explaining something, only to see her brow furrow in confusion. Halfway through my ramble, I’d realize I was lost in my own words, circling around a point I hadn’t quite grasped myself. Recently, I’ve learned to hit the pause button and say, “Hang on, let me talk this out for a minute.” That simple phrase is like a magic wand. It signals to her that I’m working through my thoughts, and it gives me the space to stumble toward clarity. She listens with saint-like patience, and by the end, I’ve often landed on something sharper, clearer, and more meaningful than where I started.

This discovery got me thinking: how often do we misunderstand each other because we don’t realize how differently we process and communicate? How many times have we been this close to a breakthrough in a conversation, only to miss it because we didn’t take that extra step to clarify? I bet it happens more than we think. As the philosopher Epictetus once said, “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” But what if we also need to speak to understand ourselves better?

Communication isn’t something that just happens—it’s a skill we have to hone. It starts with understanding ourselves: how we think, how we express ideas, and what we need to be clear. For me, that means talking out loud and asking for patience while I sort through my thoughts. For you, it might mean writing things down, mulling over ideas in silence, or asking questions to better understand someone else’s perspective.

The beauty of this realization is that it’s not just about me—or you. It’s about creating space for others in our conversations. The next time you’re in a discussion that feels stuck, take a moment to reflect. Are you saying what you really mean? Are you giving the other person room to express themselves fully? One small step—like saying, “Let me think this through out loud” or “Can you help me clarify this?”—can transform a conversation from frustrating to fruitful.

Here’s my challenge to you: Pay attention to how you process and communicate. What’s one thing you can do to make your conversations clearer and more connected? Maybe it’s pausing to gather your thoughts, asking for feedback, or simply listening a little longer. Try it, and you might be surprised at how much easier communication becomes.

Talking it out has taught me that clarity isn’t just about finding the right words—it’s about understanding yourself and inviting others into that process. So, go ahead and have that conversation. Speak, listen, reflect, and repeat. You never know what breakthroughs are waiting on the other side.

Day 28 of the 7–40 Challenge: Embracing the Intrapreneur Mindset

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Hey there, friends! Welcome to Day 28 of my 7–40 Challenge. As Sunday winds down, I’m reflecting on an incredible weekend filled with accomplishments, quality family time, and some serious progress on my daily goals. It’s been a whirlwind, but the kind that leaves you energized and ready for more. Tonight, I want to share some thoughts inspired by a book I’ve been diving into—Your Next Five Moves by Patrick Bet-David. This book is hitting me square in the chest, and I think it might resonate with you too.

Bet-David’s story is raw and real. He doesn’t sugarcoat his journey from a less-than-stellar student to a powerhouse salesman, entrepreneur, and now CEO of a major corporation and media company. He’s upfront about the grind, the failures, and the wins. What’s got me hooked is his take on entrepreneurship—and a concept I’d never heard before: intrapreneurship. Yeah, it’s a new one for me too, and it’s got my wheels turning.

The Entrepreneurship Dream vs. Reality

Let’s talk about entrepreneurship for a second. It’s that shiny goal so many of us chase, right? The idea of being your own boss, calling the shots, and building something from the ground up. But here’s the reality check: most of us don’t end up there. Gary Vaynerchuk once said, “If you’ve struck out on your own to be an entrepreneur, where you’re alone or the boss, you are only 1% of people.” One percent! That leaves the rest of us—99%—wondering how we can create value, make an impact, and maybe even scratch that entrepreneurial itch without quitting our day jobs.

That’s where Bet-David’s idea of being an intrapreneur comes in, and let me tell you, it’s a revelation. He describes an intrapreneur as someone who acts like an entrepreneur within the company they work for. They spot chaos, identify a problem that needs solving, and dive in headfirst to tackle it. They don’t just clock in and out—they own the problem. They build alliances, lead without a title, and shape the organization from the inside out. As Bet-David puts it, “The best intrapreneurs are the ones who treat the company’s problems as if they were their own.”

Owning the Chaos, No Title Required

This idea hit me hard because it flips the script on what it means to make a difference. You don’t need to be the CEO or start your own company to have an impact. Whether it’s your day job, your church, or any organization you’re part of, there are problems begging for someone to step up and solve them. Bet-David writes, “An intrapreneur sees opportunity in the chaos and takes responsibility for creating value.” That’s powerful. It’s about asking yourself: What am I uniquely skilled to do? How can I take ownership of something that’ll make this place—and the people in it—better?

For me, this is a call to action. I’m not just my job title. I can be more helpful at work, more impactful at church, and maybe even inspire others to do the same. It’s about showing up with resolve, pouring excellence into everything I do, and solving real problems—not just for the organization, but for the customers, the team, and even myself.

Risk, Reward, and the Power of Choice

Entrepreneurship, at its core, is about risk and reward. You put yourself out there, and the payoff can be huge—not just in money, but in impact. Intrapreneurship might carry less risk (no quitting your job to bootstrap a startup), but the reward is still there. You’re defining a need and filling it, creating value where there was none before. As Gary Vaynerchuk says, “The truth is that the ability to create something from nothing is inside all of us.” Whether you’re the captain of your own ship or a sailor on someone else’s, you get to choose your attitude, your effort, and the excellence you bring every single day.

My Goal This Week

This concept of intrapreneurship has me fired up, and I’m going to be chewing on it over the next few days. I’m asking myself: Where can I step up? What problems can I own? How can I make the world around me better, whether it’s at work, in my community, or even in this challenge? I’ll keep you posted if any big revelations hit me, but for now, I’m leaning into this idea of choosing excellence and creating value, no matter where I’m standing.

Thanks for joining me on this journey, friends. I truly appreciate you taking the time to read along and share in these moments of reflection. Here’s to Day 29—let’s go out and make the world a little better, one move at a time.

What do you think about this intrapreneurship idea? Are there problems you’re itching to solve in your own world? Drop a comment—I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Day 26 of the 7–40 Challenge: Who Are You Becoming?

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Good morning, friends! It’s Saturday, October 4, 2025, and I’m fired up for Day 26 of my 7–40 Challenge. I hope you’re waking up today feeling strong, inspired, and ready to chase after the person you’re meant to become. Let’s dive into a quick thought for this beautiful morning: Are your goals leading you where you truly want to be? Are they YOUR goals?

Take a moment to ask yourself: Who do I desire to become? Who am I, really? For me, the answer starts with this truth: I am a child of God. Jesus is my Savior, and my deepest desire is to live in a way that makes God smile. How do I do that? By knowing Him, loving Him, and spending time with Him. That’s why my daily Bible study is non-negotiable—it’s the foundation of my goals. I want to grow closer to God every single day and shine His love to everyone around me. As it says in John 15:4 (NLT), “Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me.” Staying connected to God is how I bear fruit in my life.

Next, I want to be a fit and healthy man. That’s why I’m chugging my water, logging my calories (okay, I’ve missed a day or two, but I’m keeping my eyes on the prize), and exercising daily. These habits pull me closer to the strong, vibrant person I want to be and further from health struggles or frustration. It’s not about perfection—it’s about progress.

I also want to be a wise and capable man, someone who’s ready with the right words when they’re needed. So, I read every day—good, positive, uplifting stuff that builds me up and sharpens my mind. I steer clear of the negative noise that drags me down. Proverbs 4:7 (NLT) reminds me, “Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment.” I’m committed to growing, refining how I think, and handling my business with integrity so I can take care of those who matter most.

And speaking of what matters, I want to be a thoughtful person. That’s why I journal daily, reflecting on my thoughts and experiences. Writing helps me process, share, and stay grounded in my “why.” There’s so much more I want to become, so many practices I want to add, but I’m making sure these goals are worth leaping out of bed for. They’re my goals—not someone else’s, not forced, but chosen because they light a fire in my soul to be more and do more than ever before.

And let’s bookend this with what matters most: family. I started with God, and I’ll end with my wife and son—the joys of my life. Everything I do—striving to be godly, healthy, wise, and thoughtful—is so I can love and provide for them well. They’re my reason, my motivation, and my greatest blessing. I thank God for them every single day.

So, what about you? What are your goals? What’s the “why” behind what you’re chasing? Drop it in the comments, send me a message, or tag me—let’s inspire each other to keep pushing forward. Here’s to Day 26 of the 7–40 Challenge—let’s make it count and become the people we’re called to be!

Dreams vs. Plans: Knowing What You Truly Want

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There’s a fine line between dreaming and planning, between wishing for something and actually achieving it. Dreams can spark inspiration, but without action, they often remain just that—dreams. Too often, we get stuck in the wishing phase, never crossing the bridge to making things happen. This distinction has been on my mind lately, and it’s reshaping how I think about my goals and desires.

I came across a quote from James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, that made me pause: “You don’t need to keep wanting something you’re not willing to work for.” It’s a simple but powerful truth. If you’re not ready to put in the effort, is it really a goal—or just a fleeting wish? This got me reflecting on my own life and the things I’ve said I wanted, but deep down, I knew I wasn’t ready to chase.

Take six-pack abs, for example. It’s a nice thought—picturing myself with a chiseled, swimsuit-model physique. But if I’m honest, am I willing to commit to the grueling workouts and strict diet it takes to get there? Anyone who knows me would laugh and say, “Nope.” So, what do I do with a dream like that? Do I keep it on a pedestal, pretending it’s a goal, or do I get real with myself about what I actually want?

This idea of aligning desires with effort reminds me of a story from Patrick Bet-David’s book, Your Next Five Moves. In it, he talks about a conversation with a former coworker early in his career in the insurance industry. Bet-David had big dreams—world domination, in his words. He wanted to build an empire with thousands of employees, a company so influential that “everyone would know and respect the name Bet-David.” It was a promise to his parents, who had emigrated from Iran and endured immense hardship, that their sacrifices wouldn’t be in vain.

His coworker, however, had a different vision. Sitting on the same opportunity, he didn’t dream of empires. He wanted a comfortable life, earning $500,000 a year, with time to be present for his kids. Bet-David’s takeaway? That’s perfectly okay. Not everyone needs to chase the same dreams. The key is knowing who you are and what you want. That clarity lets you set goals that are authentic to you, not just what society—or even you—think your dreams should be.

This resonates deeply with me. I don’t need a six-pack to feel good about myself; a trim waistline and a healthy lifestyle are enough. I don’t need to be a multimillionaire entrepreneur;I want to provide for my family, live with purpose, and make God smile. As Bet-David emphasizes, it’s about defining your own version of success. Another great perspective comes from philosopher Seneca, who said, “If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable.” Without a clear destination, no amount of effort will get you where you want to go.

I also found inspiration in a video clip of Michael Bublé. Some critics say he hasn’t achieved enough in his career—fewer albums, fewer tours than expected. But Bublé shared a different measure of success. Smiling, he said his children won’t remember the bedtime stories he tells them or the moments he carries them to bed. They’ll simply know they grew up in a happy home. For him, that’s the ultimate achievement. His words hit home because my family is my greatest joy, too. Success, for me, is less about external accolades and more about the love and stability I create for those closest to me.

As I’ve been reflecting, I’m learning that desires can evolve. What I wanted ten years ago isn’t the same as what I want now, and that’s okay. The journey is about refining the answer to the question, “Who am I, and what do I truly want?” Each day, I’m getting closer to understanding the person in the mirror. And with that clarity comes hope—a belief that with a clear purpose, amazing things are possible.

To anyone reading this, thank you for taking the time to share in this reflection. I’m grateful for you. My hope for you is that you find clarity in your own desires, that you pursue goals that light you up, and that you achieve what you’ve set out to do. As the poet Rumi once said, “What you seek is seeking you.” So, get clear on what you’re seeking—and then go after it with everything you’ve got.