I’ve been trying to build better habits for years. Long before the current challenge I’m in — a 280-day experiment in showing up every single day — I tried other versions. Different names, different structures, same intention. And every single time, the thing that killed it wasn’t a lack of motivation. It was the restart. … Continue reading The Hidden Cost of Starting Over
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The Lie
Somewhere around age eighteen, most of us were told to pick. Pick a major. Pick a career. Pick a direction. And the unspoken rule underneath all of it was that whatever you picked, that was it. That was your life. You chose wrong? Tough. You chose right but lost interest? Too bad. The conveyor belt … Continue reading The Lie
The Laundry
In 1999, my bride and I were newlyweds living in an apartment complex with no washer and dryer. We’d carry our clothes over to the laundromat, sit together while things ran, and just talk. One afternoon I folded something and she looked at me and said, “You didn’t fold that right.” What do you mean … Continue reading The Laundry
What Do You Have to Offer?
Cal Newport asks a question that most people get backwards. The passion mindset asks, “what can the world offer me?” The craftsman mindset asks, “what can I offer the world?” I’ve been sitting with that second question for a while now. And the honest answer surprised me. For a long time, I didn’t think I … Continue reading What Do You Have to Offer?
The Battle
There’s a battle going on inside me that I’m only now learning to talk about. On one side is the craftsman. He wants systems. Structure. Reps. He wants to know the plan, follow the plan, and measure the results. He’s the one who built a 280-day challenge with assessment weeks and daily checklists. He’s the … Continue reading The Battle
