Freedom to do what needs to be done.

What do you do when you make it to the end of the day and the majority of your daily goals are unmet? You work until you get done what you can get done. That day was today.

We attended the funeral of a very sweet lady today. We stood with family and friends and said goodbye. It was a time I would not have missed.

We got home this evening at 7:45. Seven of my eight daily goals were still unmet. I thought about blowing them off. I thought about curling up and going to sleep. However, I said I was going to do them. So, I got up and got them done.

I have found a lot of freedom in this. Yeah, I know. That sounds like it shouldn’t make sense. You have found freedom in having 8 daily tasked to achieve. Yes. Let me explain.

I am a citizen of the United States. I live in a free country. I can do what I want as long as it is not against the law. To accomplish this, I have to have a pretty good idea of what not to do. When I know that, I am free to do everything else.

I have eight daily tasks/goals that I have set out to achieve. Some of them involve not doing specific things. I can’t follow a nutritional diet and also eat a tub of ice cream a day. So I keep the diet and eat the ice cream in moderation. It is a boundary I have set for myself.

All this to say, I did what I needed to do today. I spent time with the ones I love. And, I was still able to get what I needed to do done, because there is freedom and flexibility that come when operating inside guidelines.

Day six is in the books.

A Life Well Lived

It is hard to capture the affect someone can have on your life. Your encounters may have been brief, but the impact was lasting. I know someone like that. I was honored to know her.

I have had a few careers in my adult life. I work in data management now. Once upon a time I was an insurance adjuster and an office manager. Before that I slung pizza and sprayed yards. However, the job that started my career in the adult big leagues was as a music and youth pastor at a small church in Oklahoma City.

I was 20 years old when I took the job. I was two weeks from getting married to the love of my life and figured I needed to be gainfully employed if I was going to be successful as a husband. So, when the church offered me the position I was ready and eager.

Let’s be honest here, I had no idea what I was doing. It was all on the job training. I did not know that I was about to undergo one of the greatest learning curves of my life. I held on as tight as I could for a bumpy ride.

I wasn’t without help. Here enters one of the many wonderful people that helped me along my way, Bonnie – the most awesome church secretary.

It is always easier to do a job when you know you have people on your side. Every time I walked into the office Bonnie greeted me warmly. She showed care and concern. She helped show me the ropes. She made the atmosphere brighter because of who she was.

I could say many things about Bonnie. I admired her work at the church. She did what she did with excellence. She stood up for what she believed in. She made people feel welcome, including me. (She was also camp cook for both summers we took teenagers to camp! Good food!!)

She also gave me a great gift. I have had the honor for over 23 years of calling Bonnie’s son one of my best friends. We have been through a lot of life together and I am beyond grateful.

Bonnie passed away last Thursday. She had lived a long full life and was tired and ready to join her husband in Heaven. She is now free of pain and in a place that I look forward to one day being, with Jesus.

We will celebrate her tomorrow at her service. I am so thankful for her life and her impact on me. Her influence has been one of the factors that has helped me be who I am today. I am thankful for her and for the friendships/family I have because of her. She will be missed.

I have a choice

I said it before in a previous post, but it bears repeating…I love words. I love uncovering the meaning in them.

What word am I thinking about today? Agency.

What does this word mean?

We all know the common definition. A business that transacts agreements between two or mor parties. Think insurance agency. This is not what I am after.

The next definition states – a thing or person that acts to produce a particular result.

We have agency. We have the ability inside us to decide what results we want to see and then go after it. It may not seem like we have it, but we do.

This 100 days is not starting out as well as the last one did. I feel sluggish. I have hit a weight loss wall. It feels like I won’t hit any more of the goals I have set out for myself. That is how it “feels”.

Then I remember that I have agency. I have the ability to determine a particular result and go after my with a ferocious intensity. That power to choose is mine. Sluggish or not, there are things to be done. Goals to be achieved.

It is time to keep moving forward. I made the choice. Now it is time to follow through.

Getting back in the groove

I was in some pretty awesome habit patterns last year. For 100 days between September 12 and December 21, I had it going on and I made a lot of progress towards my goals.

Then comes Christmas. I admit, I’d did better over the Christmas holiday than ever before. Sure, I ate what I wanted and I enjoyed myself. However, I didn’t go completely crazy, which I have done in years past.

However, getting back to accomplishing my daily tasks has not been as easy as I would have liked. You give yourself an inch and you end up giving a mile. Getting back in the groove has been hard.

Today is day 3. I was able to cross my tasks off the list. That part was good. I ate more than I should have, that was the bad part. So, tomorrow I will knuckle back down and stay within calories.

I saw a video earlier that made me smile. In the video a man was out running in the cold rain. He admitted he didn’t want to be there. There were many other thing he would rather be doing. But, he told himself he was going to do it. He went running because he is a man of his word.

I am going to keep going on my 100 Day Strong journey because I am a man of my word. I said I was going to do it again and I will.

Another day closer to my goals

I watched a video by David Goggins. He is one of, if not the, fittest man on earth. He knows a thing or two about achieving. Here is a paraphrase of what he said:

Do something that sucks every day. Do it even if you don’t want to. It builds mental callouses and makes you tough.

He was referring to working out or learning or any other hard task that makes you improve. We have to do the hard things that don’t come easy. We have to embrace the things that suck.

That hit a chord with me. While working out every day is t necessarily hard, there are many days I don’t want to. I have to do it anyway.

There are many days I don’t want to mark the things off my list. I have to do them anyway. I told myself I would. Now, I have to keep my word.

Day 2 is in the books. On to day 3. #motivation #100DaysStrong #fitness #golas