I have been running into a common theme lately: Leadership is not all about what you (as the leader) may want. Leadership is not about always getting your way. It is about casting a vision in front of people and then working with them to take your initial vision and turn it into something that everyone can take ownership in. Leadership is about seeing the next place you need to go as a group, and then having everyone get there together.

What do I mean? If I come to you with an idea that I have and ask for your help, but don’t allow you to have any input, will you be invested in the outcome of my idea? Not really. You would simply be helping me with one of my crazy ideas, and upon its completion would have very little lasting impact in your life.

Now, take the same scenario and tweak it a little bit. I have an idea that I bring to you. I tell you what I am wanting to do with it. I ask for your help, your advice, and your active input. You are excited about the idea and want to become a part. My idea has now become our idea. We work on it together. When we are finished, I doubt that it looks much like what I initially brought to you. The idea has changed…many times for the better.

Many years ago I worked in a small church setting. I was a youth pastor with a lot of energy and self proclaimed “brilliant” ideas. I did not understand the principle I have described above. I believed it was my responsibility to tell everyone else what we needed to be doing. What did I get in return? Leaders who did not know where we were going, or trust that I could get them there.

I was too arrogant to admit that I didn’t know where we were going. I was the leader. I was going to get us there. Wherever there was. Had I joined with them and gave up the need to have things my way, who knows the good things we would have been able to accomplish together? It was a missed opportunity, but a step in my education of what leadership is.

Fast forward twenty years. I am in a leadership role with a business group that I am associated with. I believe in the mission and purpose of the organization. I believe what in what we stand for. I feel the need to lead. However, I don’t feel the need to always have my way. I am eager to meet with people and hear their vision about what we are doing.

As the group’s leader, I want to share my vision and then work with them to get to a place that was better than any of us intended when we began. I want the organization to be better after my time as a leader is gone. I want others to want to step in and take the vision ever further. If I can accomplish this, I will feel like I have done what I am supposed to.

Verse 1

I don’t know what you see when you look in the mirror at the lady staring back at you. Is it your past? Or your failures? The things you did or didn’t do? Let me tell you what I see when I look at you.

Chorus

I see the love of my life. I see the girl that I still choose to be my wife. I see the friend who, through all the years, has walked with me through happy times and tears. I see the love.

Verse 2

How I wish you could see through my eyes! Then I’d know exactly what you see. When you look you see a maiden…when I look I see my queen. I swear you get more beautiful with every passing day. Let the time go by. I will always feel this way.

Chorus

I see the love of my life. I see the girl that I still choose to be my wife. I see the friend who, through all the years, has walked with me through happy times and tears. That’s just what see baby when you look at me. I see the love.

Bridge

I swear you get more beautiful with every passing day. Let the time go by. I will always feel this way.

Chorus

I see the love of my life. I see the girl that I still choose to be my wife. I see the friend who, through all the years, has walked with me through happy times and tears. I see the love.

At the beginning of this year I started a new reading plan in my Bible. The challenge is to read the entire Bible through in a year. I have done this before, but it was time to dive in again. I find that every time I reread it something new and unexpected pops out. This time through is proving to be the same.

I am currently in the book of Job. For those of you not familiar with him (pronounced Jobe…has nothing to do with working 9-5), Job is one of the oldest books of the Bible. It is a story about a man who has everything, but at the same time is a very good man who follows God very closely. He then has everything taken away, yet he still chooses to follow God. He airs a lot of frustrations in the process, but he does it without cursing his maker. By the end of the book, Job is restored and life is good again. My summation is seriously understated, but give it a read. It is worth the time.

One of the things that sticks out to me is the group of friends that gather around Job during his time of morning. They see him from a far off. They see his desolation. The tear their own clothes as a sign of mourning. Then…the proceed for many chapters to tell Job he must be a terrible guy and he needs to admit all of the bad stuff he did. Their reasoning? It was obvious to them that God must be punishing him for all the wicked things that he had been doing. Job must be a no good, low down, scum bag that was getting his just rewards. Seriously, if these guys were friends…I would hate to see what his enemies looked like.

When I read the Bible I often wonder why certain stories are in there. I believe it is all there for a reason that God intended. The story of Job is no different. I would like to examine one reason that strikes me: Job’s friends were self righteous windbags. I should not be one.

What do we do when we see people hurting? If we are a good friend, we go to them. We show them love. We comfort them. We feed them. If need be, we sit down in the dirt with them and hurt with them. We lift them up. We walk with them always. We don’t let them be alone in their struggle.

I have some very good friends that are just like this. When I was in the dirt, they were there with me. When I was at my lowest points, they were there. They loved me. They took care of me. They have walked and will walk with me. I will do the same for them.

Then, there are the other folks. People you thought you could count on. The ones, like Job’s friends, who loved to point out your failures and tell you how awful you are. They may never have said it in so many words, but their actions spoke clearly what they thought of you. I have known quite a few like this.

I choose to be the good friend. Life is too short to be the other kind of person. I leave this post with a verse that made me laugh out loud. Job had just been verbally assaulted by one of his “Friends”. He looked at them and responded:

“Won’t you ever stop blowing hot air? What makes you keep on talking?” Job‬ ‭16:3‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I have a folder of writings that I have put together over the years. Over the last couple of months I have pulled a lot of things out from years ago. This is another one of those. I wrote this in 2001. I hope you enjoy.

Verse 1

Dirty, dusty, broken in two. My heart, my life, I am left with no excuse. I struggle, I fight, I stumble to the ground. My enemy’s victories seem hands down.

But I pick up again with a hope to carry on. I must conquer defeat before my chances are gone.

Chorus

I don’t want to be broken anymore. I want to rise up anew. I don’t want to be broken anymore. I want to live my life to glorify You. To praise You forever, to lift up my hands. Father hear me now, help me stand……Unbroken.

Verse 2

I have lived life in my own way and I lie here now in this shattered state. I have tried to do the best I can and yet I find my self further back than when I began

Lord help me now to serve You once again. I want to experience Your grace to know Your love that has no end.

Chorus

I don’t want to be broken anymore. I want to rise up anew. I don’t want to be broken anymore. I want to live my life to glorify You. To praise You forever, to lift up my hands. Father hear me now, help me stand……Unbroken.

Tag

If we confess our sins, just like your word said You are faithful and just to forgive us again. I want more than forgiveness, I want a heart that’s new. I want to be with You forever, until eternity is through

Chorus

I don’t want to be broken anymore. I want to rise up anew. I don’t want to be broken anymore. I want to live my life to glorify You. To praise You forever, to lift up my hands. Father hear me now, help me stand……Unbroken.

For most of my life I feel I’ve lived in a shadow

Hiding there away from the bright sun light

Striving to shape myself after current trend or fashion

Refusing to acknowledge that I was dying inside

By filling my life up with more noise and static

I hoped to drown out the quite nudging I felt within

But like a traveler who lost somewhere in the darkness

I was left with no clue as to where or how to begin

I thought if I could be like that guy, then I too could be cool.

If I could just be that popular, I’d be the talk of the school

If I could just be like that guy, then every one would see

There is a real person who lives inside of me.

So I walked on in this shadow for days and days to come

I wandered back and forth finding myself further undone

I compromised myself to try harder to fit in

And still I found myself without a true friend

The more I tried to fit in the more I felt alone

The loneliness I felt was more than I ever have known

What I didn’t know is that there were other people, people just like me

Who were tired of trying to be what everyone else said to be

We thought if we could be like that girl, then we could be cool.

If we could be that popular, we’d be the talk of the school

If we could just be like that girl, then every one would see

That we all are people, who want to be seen.

Then one day I discovered, a treasure so worth the find

There was a way to be real, without the masks I hid behind

There was a Man named Jesus, who knows me just for me

He gave Himself to love me, so that I may be free.

Now I know that I want to be like Jesus, who cares what is cool

There is no need to be popular to share His love to my school

If I live my life like Jesus, then every one would see

That there is a God in heaven who died to set them free.

No more living in shadows, I have stepped into the Son

With this new found salvation I now that life has only begun.

Now I know that I want to be like Jesus, who cares what is cool

There is no need to be popular to share His love to my school

If I live my life like Jesus, then every one would see

That there is a God in heaven who died to set them free.