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Dreams vs. Plans: Knowing What You Truly Want

~ David Willis ~ Leave a comment

There’s a fine line between dreaming and planning, between wishing for something and actually achieving it. Dreams can spark inspiration, but without action, they often remain just that—dreams. Too often, we get stuck in the wishing phase, never crossing the bridge to making things happen. This distinction has been on my mind lately, and it’s reshaping how I think about my goals and desires.

I came across a quote from James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, that made me pause: “You don’t need to keep wanting something you’re not willing to work for.” It’s a simple but powerful truth. If you’re not ready to put in the effort, is it really a goal—or just a fleeting wish? This got me reflecting on my own life and the things I’ve said I wanted, but deep down, I knew I wasn’t ready to chase.

Take six-pack abs, for example. It’s a nice thought—picturing myself with a chiseled, swimsuit-model physique. But if I’m honest, am I willing to commit to the grueling workouts and strict diet it takes to get there? Anyone who knows me would laugh and say, “Nope.” So, what do I do with a dream like that? Do I keep it on a pedestal, pretending it’s a goal, or do I get real with myself about what I actually want?

This idea of aligning desires with effort reminds me of a story from Patrick Bet-David’s book, Your Next Five Moves. In it, he talks about a conversation with a former coworker early in his career in the insurance industry. Bet-David had big dreams—world domination, in his words. He wanted to build an empire with thousands of employees, a company so influential that “everyone would know and respect the name Bet-David.” It was a promise to his parents, who had emigrated from Iran and endured immense hardship, that their sacrifices wouldn’t be in vain.

His coworker, however, had a different vision. Sitting on the same opportunity, he didn’t dream of empires. He wanted a comfortable life, earning $500,000 a year, with time to be present for his kids. Bet-David’s takeaway? That’s perfectly okay. Not everyone needs to chase the same dreams. The key is knowing who you are and what you want. That clarity lets you set goals that are authentic to you, not just what society—or even you—think your dreams should be.

This resonates deeply with me. I don’t need a six-pack to feel good about myself; a trim waistline and a healthy lifestyle are enough. I don’t need to be a multimillionaire entrepreneur;I want to provide for my family, live with purpose, and make God smile. As Bet-David emphasizes, it’s about defining your own version of success. Another great perspective comes from philosopher Seneca, who said, “If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable.” Without a clear destination, no amount of effort will get you where you want to go.

I also found inspiration in a video clip of Michael Bublé. Some critics say he hasn’t achieved enough in his career—fewer albums, fewer tours than expected. But Bublé shared a different measure of success. Smiling, he said his children won’t remember the bedtime stories he tells them or the moments he carries them to bed. They’ll simply know they grew up in a happy home. For him, that’s the ultimate achievement. His words hit home because my family is my greatest joy, too. Success, for me, is less about external accolades and more about the love and stability I create for those closest to me.

As I’ve been reflecting, I’m learning that desires can evolve. What I wanted ten years ago isn’t the same as what I want now, and that’s okay. The journey is about refining the answer to the question, “Who am I, and what do I truly want?” Each day, I’m getting closer to understanding the person in the mirror. And with that clarity comes hope—a belief that with a clear purpose, amazing things are possible.

To anyone reading this, thank you for taking the time to share in this reflection. I’m grateful for you. My hope for you is that you find clarity in your own desires, that you pursue goals that light you up, and that you achieve what you’ve set out to do. As the poet Rumi once said, “What you seek is seeking you.” So, get clear on what you’re seeking—and then go after it with everything you’ve got.

The Truth About Motivation: Stop Waiting, Start Doing

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Every time I scroll through my social media feeds, I’m bombarded with posts about motivation. “Find the motivation to chase your dreams!” “Stay motivated to crush your goals!” The word gets thrown around so much that it’s easy to lose sight of what it actually means. So, let’s cut through the noise and get real.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, motivation is “the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.” Sounds straightforward, right? But here’s the thing—I’ve been staring at that definition for a while now, and I’m calling it out: Motivation is a liar.

Let me explain. If I’m being brutally honest, my “general desire” is to do as little as possible. I’m human. I gravitate toward the path of least resistance. It’s not something I’m proud of, but it’s the truth. And my “willingness” to do things? That’s shaky at best. I’ve got big dreams and grand intentions, but let’s face it—it’s easier to not achieve. It’s easier to scroll, binge-watch, or procrastinate than to grind toward something meaningful.

But here’s where I draw the line: I refuse to let that define me. I know myself well enough to understand that my fleeting desires or shaky willingness can’t be trusted to get the job done. My choices, my responsibilities, my word—those are what matter. I can’t sit around waiting for a magical burst of motivation to strike. Sure, those moments of inspiration feel like a shot of adrenaline, but they fizzle out fast. If I’m going to move forward, I need something more reliable than a feeling. I need a plan—and the self-discipline to stick to it.

As the great American poet Maya Angelou once said, “You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” The same goes for action. The more you push through, the more you build the muscle of discipline. Waiting for motivation is like waiting for permission—it’s not coming unless you decide to act anyway.

I want to be a man of my word. When I say I’m going to do something, I want you to know it’s as good as done. You can take it to the bank. I’ve worked hard to make this true in my relationships with others, and I’m getting better at keeping that promise to myself. It’s not always easy. There are days when the couch calls louder than my goals, but I’m learning to show up anyway.

I was listening to an interview with Kobe Bryant a while back, and he dropped a gem that hit me hard. He talked about signing a contract with himself. He made a deal—willingly—and held himself accountable to follow through. That’s why he was the hardest-working person in any room. He didn’t wait for motivation to show up; he showed up for himself. As Kobe put it, “You have to work hard in the dark to shine in the light.” That’s the kind of commitment I’m striving for.

So, this is my reminder to myself—and maybe to you, too: Motivation is a liar. It’s a fleeting feeling that can’t be trusted to carry you through. There are goals to chase, tasks to tackle, and promises to keep. The deal has been made. It’s time to get to work.

What’s one thing you’re committing to today, no matter how you feel? Let’s hold ourselves accountable and make it happen.

Day 24 of the 7-40 Challenge: Aligning Your Vision with Unwavering Effort

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Hey there, friend. Welcome to Day 24 of my 7-40 Challenge. We’re knee-deep in this journey now, and honestly, it feels both exhilarating and exhausting. For those just tuning in, this challenge is all about building seven daily habits over extended periods—40-day increments that give me enough time to really grind through the reps and see what sticks.

I’m 64 days in at this point, and for the most part, I’ve held strong. Sure, life has thrown its curveballs these past two months—fast and furious doesn’t even cover it. But amid the chaos, I’m genuinely thankful for the progress I’ve made. There are days when I stare in the mirror and question if anything’s changed at all. Sound familiar? I know I’m not alone in that nagging doubt, and that’s exactly why I keep pushing forward.

Yesterday, I dove into a new audiobook: Your Next Five Moves by Patrick Bet-David. Man, this guy’s framework for success as a businessperson, entrepreneur, or really anyone chasing big goals is spot on. He’s all about strategic thinking, and his first “move” hits right at the core: understanding who you are and what you truly want.

One quote from the book really resonated with me, so I wanted to share it:

“If someone is winning at a higher level than you are, you either need to lower your expectations to match your current work ethic, or increase your work ethic to exceed your own expectations. If you do neither, you will be miserable. So one way or the other, you have to have expectations that match your work ethic to achieve the vision that you have set out for yourself.”

Boom. That one really made me think. It’s from his chapter on clarifying your desires, and it ties into another gem: “Your vision must align with who you want to be. Your choices must align with your vision, your effort must align with the size of your vision, and your behavior must align with your values and principles.”

Reading this chapter (or listening, in my case) was a message I didn’t know I needed. For years, I’ve toyed with the idea of going full entrepreneur mode—starting something from scratch, being my own boss. But if I’m brutally honest, that’s not the path for me right now. I love the thrill of entrepreneurial adventures, but I want them alongside my current career, not instead of it. At least for the foreseeable future.

Beyond that, I’ve always craved more success, more impact, more me. Yet, I’ve skimped on defining what that actually looks like. Who do I want to be? What do I want to achieve? There were times early in my career when I’d get frustrated watching others climb faster. I’d feel competitive, like I’d earned my spot, but things didn’t always move at my pace. Looking back, though, it all lines up with Bet-David’s wisdom: My achievements matched my effort. When I locked in on clear goals and poured in the work, promotions, raises, and recognition followed. When I coasted? Frustration city.

This reminds me of an insight from Thomas Edison, the inventor who embodied relentless hustle: “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.” It’s a stark reminder that vision without sweat is just daydreaming. Edison didn’t just wish for breakthroughs; he aligned his effort with his ambitions, failing thousands of times before lighting up the world.

Now, in my 40s, I’m at this proverbial crossroads. I’m no longer that wide-eyed 20-something fumbling through. I’ve built a solid career, and I have a decent grasp on my strengths and identity. But it’s time to sharpen that vision—to define the scope of who I want to become in the years ahead. And for me, that’s deeply guided by my faith in God and trusting Jesus Christ to lead the way. As the Bible puts it in Proverbs 16:3, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” That verse has been a anchor for me, reminding me that true alignment comes from surrendering my path to something greater.

It’s wild to think that even now, I’m still essentially asking, “What do I want to be when I grow up?” But here’s the exciting part: I have more tools, experience, and excitement than ever before. I know I can chase those dreams—I just need to get crystal clear, craft a plan, and execute. For too long, fear held me back from that next step. No more. It’s time to move forward with confidence.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” For me, That’s the mindset I’m adopting. Whether it’s habits in this challenge or bigger life moves, it’s about deciding, aligning, and acting.

If you’re reading this and feeling that pull toward clarity or change, join me. What’s one step you can take today to align your vision with your effort? Let’s keep grinding—together.

Until next time, stay strong.

When Life Punches Back: How Habits Keep You Chasing Your Dreams

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Some days just don’t play ball. You know the ones—mornings that start with a glitch, evenings that seem to have a personal grudge. Life throws punches, and sometimes it feels like you’re dodging one hit after another. But here’s the truth: those rough days don’t get to write your story. You do. And the secret weapon to keep moving forward? Habits. Routines. The small, steady steps that carry you through when the world feels like it’s conspiring against you.

As the great philosopher Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” This rings true especially on those uncooperative days. That’s why I’ve been committed to practicing seven daily habits over 40-day periods. These aren’t just tasks on a to-do list—they’re my lifeline. They’re the framework that keeps me grounded when everything else feels like it’s spinning out of control. Even when the day punches me in the face, these habits ensure I’m still making progress, inch by stubborn inch.

Take yesterday, for example. I’ve been dealing with nagging back discomfort for months. Like a lot of guys, I sometimes think I’m invincible, picking up things heavier than I should. Classic mistake. Something in my back got tweaked, and it’s been causing a frustrating numbness in my hand. I finally made it to the chiropractor, and thankfully, he worked his magic and got me back in alignment. But the whole ordeal threw a wrench in my day. Appointments, discomfort, and the mental fog of frustration meant I didn’t get half the things done I’d planned. It felt like the day was winning.

But here’s where those habits come in. Even on a day like that—when my body wasn’t cooperating, when my schedule went sideways—I stuck to my routine. Maybe I didn’t crush my to-do list, but I still did my morning bible study. I still carved out time for a quick walk, and got my reading done. I still checked off the small things that keep me tethered to my goals. And you know what? That’s progress. It’s not flashy, but it’s real.

The Roman poet Virgil once wrote, “The greatest wealth is health.” And boy, does a wonky back remind you of that. When your body betrays you, or when appointments get derailed, or when life just feels like a series of canceled plans, it’s easy to throw your hands up and say, “Forget it.” But that’s exactly when your habits become your superpower. They’re the quiet force that keeps you moving forward, even when it feels like you’re wading through mud.

Building a routine isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up, day after day, even when the world feels like it’s working against you. It’s about trusting that the small, consistent actions—writing, exercising, reflecting, whatever your habits may be—add up to something bigger. They’re the scaffolding that holds you up when the storms hit. And trust me, the storms will hit.

So, the next time life throws a tantrum, stick out your chest and lean on your routines. They’re your proof that a bad day doesn’t get to define you. A displaced vertebra, a missed deadline, or a canceled plan can’t stop you from chasing your dreams. Keep practicing those habits. Keep showing up. Because even on the messiest, most frustrating days, you’re still moving forward—and that’s what makes the journey authentic.

What’s one habit that keeps you grounded when life gets chaotic? Share it in the comments—I’d love to hear how you keep pushing through!

Day 22 of the 7-40 Challenge: Finding Gratitude in the Grind

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Hello, friends! Welcome to Day 22 of Round 2 of the 7-40 Challenge. Today’s post is inspired by a moment of clarity I stumbled upon during a workshop discussion about overcoming frustrations and unmet expectations. It’s a topic that hits home for so many of us, and I’m excited to share a perspective that not only lifted my spirits but might just spark something in you, too.

Life, as we know it, is a whirlwind of problem-solving, navigating tricky conversations, and tackling challenges that don’t always go as planned. Whether it’s a tough day at work or a moment where reality falls short of our expectations, frustration can creep in like an uninvited guest. As the great philosopher Plato once said, “We are twice armed if we fight with faith.” For me, that faith often takes the form of gratitude—a powerful weapon against the weight of disappointment.

Let me paint you a picture from my past. I once worked for an insurance claims firm, and to call it a “tumultuous” experience would be putting it mildly. The office was a haze of cigarette and cigar smoke—no rules against it in that privately run business. The air was thick, not just with smoke but with colorful language that was part of the daily grind. Days were filled with tense calls from clients demanding money, and I often felt like I was wading through a swamp of frustration. Lunch breaks with friends were my brief escape, like a prisoner tasting freedom for an hour. But even then, I carried the lingering smell of smoke, a reminder of the environment I was desperate to leave behind.

I knew I was meant for more, but in those moments, dejection had a tight grip. It took time—more than I’d like to admit—to break free and find my way. Looking back, I realize those frustrations were shaping me, driving me to be and do more than I ever had…even if I couldn’t see it then.

Fast forward to the workshop I attended today, where a simple exercise shifted my perspective. Picture this: in one hand, hold all your frustrations—the missed deadlines, the difficult coworkers, the moments when life feels like it’s falling short. In the other hand, hold everything you’re grateful for. For me, that’s a fulfilling job (even with its challenges), the freedom of living in the USA where I can chase my dreams, a loving wife and son, and a faith in Jesus that anchors me. As Helen Keller once said, “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Gratitude is that open door.

When I weigh both hands, something remarkable happens. The frustrations in one don’t seem so heavy when balanced against the gratitude in the other. It’s not about ignoring the hard stuff—it’s about choosing to see the good alongside it. Gratitude becomes a compass, guiding us through the fog of disappointment toward purpose and clarity.

Have you ever had a day where frustration threatened to derail you? Maybe you’re in a job that feels like a dead end, or perhaps life isn’t matching the vision you had in your head. I get it. But I challenge you to try this: hold your frustrations in one hand and your blessings in the other. Notice how the weight shifts. Let gratitude be your guide, pointing you toward the path you’re meant to walk, even when the road feels rough.

Here’s to finding balance, embracing gratitude, and letting it lead us through the grind. What’s in your hands today? I’d love to hear how gratitude has been your compass—share your thoughts, and let’s keep this journey going together.